Is Being Heterosexual Simply A Lifestyle Choice?

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John Cloi Profile
John Cloi answered
When did I choose to be heterosexual? Interesting question, but it is a distraction. I could ask you when you decided not to engage in pedophilia, or necrophilia, or bestiality (assuming you don't). You are asking me when I chose NOT to enter into sexual deviancy. I think it is the other way around. I would ask you when you chose to be a sexual deviant (not that there is any thing wrong with that). Was it the same time you decided that you think Christians are the source of all chaos?
You should not fear "coming out", just don't get in my face about it. I don't declare for all to hear that I like women.
You go on to talk about evolution, which is described as "survival of the fittest", and "reinforcing" genes. One of the first things that would not be reinforced would be a genetically destructive trait, such as homosexuality, or killing ones offspring, for example. All of this is of course pointing to homosexuality as being a behavior. Not biologic in nature, but a choice.
I chose to ignore this topic because debates like this are just so much static. But when I get compared to socialist leftist Nazis because I happen to be heterosexual, I had to put in my two cents. You are right about this, though: Life for homosexuals (don't use the word gay. Like marriage, that word already has a meaning) would be easy and acceptable, if the behavior was acceptable. Also, in my opinion, Adolph Hitler was a self-hating homosexual. Maybe that could be your next debate topic, instead of attacking Christians.
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A Patt
A Patt commented
Sadly that this response represents the Radical Christian Right who are extremist in the way they not only act out of hate and prejudice. We see in the world today that extremists who choose not to live the teachings of their religion that focus on peace, peace on earth, love thy neighbor, nor try to model the one who crated their religion. Any person who does not wish to answer or read the answers to ANY debate or question on this or any other site, is not required to read or write them. Accusations that are directed angrily and threatening and abusive 'name calling" as I and others have experienced are always uncalled for in any forum.

You have indicated your belief that gays engage in pedophilia, necrophilia, bestiality. There is no research anywhere that supports such hateful belief. All research to date clearly that the percentage of such behaving by gays is so low that it cannot be measured. Gays are careful to not engage in behaviors, even friendships, with children under age 19....not so with heterosexuals, usually the men. Please find the research that supports your statement & belief.

As an active, total believing, as a member of one the present leading Radical Christian Churches, for 35 years, I know what is interpreted and preached and what would have happened if I had even gone to the pastor for counsel with what I was feeling and thinking and questioning. At that time, it would have been impossible to go to the School Counselor with such a sincere question. Later, when I was a School Counselor, I know that I was not trained to respond...in fact, it would have gotten me fired and then and no employee would have not only let me teach school, but I could have never gotten a job related to my B.A. degree. Thank God who led the way for that to change just as He has led to America's laws against child sexual incest and abuse. When I was assaulted that way, there was no law-----the family just sent the molester 'packing' like the Radical Right Catholic churches have done regarding priest pedophiles.

I NEVER INTEND TO 'GET IN YOUR FACE, Joe Taxes, NOR THAN 'IN THE FACE OF ANY OTHER PERSON. How nice of you to 'ignore this topic' by reading and responding to it and to other questions and debate that might help you to practice the Love of Jesus, MY SAVIOR and LORD.

Ignorance and hatred are not good qualities in any church or society.
Ryan Rugraff Profile
Ryan Rugraff answered
No. As being heterosexual is the natural order of things this is not a choice. Homosexuality may be a choice, but I don't think so. Most gay/lesbian people I know will admit that their lives would have been much easier if they were straight. People don't usually choose to be the brunt of so much judgement and abuse.
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A Patt
A Patt commented
Maybe "the natural order" is that original creation supported by science, not Genesis in the Bible, is that A PERSON IS BORN WITH THE CHOICE OF BEING HETERO-OR HOMO-. If so, there would be the "breeders/straights" who have offspring; and the others who would not. That would mean there is a balance. The Creation always seems to balance itself. Heterosexuals may be disappointed then.
Ryan Rugraff
Ryan Rugraff commented
I am agreeing that creation vis a vis science is the truth. I am saying that due to biological impetus and "natural drives", we are supposed to be heterosexual. We are supposed to breed, otherwise you would not find so many homosexual couples still wanting children. So heterosexuality is the "natural" course, if you choose to live otherwise so be it. Heterosexuality is the way that we are "supposed" to be wired, it is not a choice, it is biological imperative for the continued survival of a species.
John Cloi
John Cloi commented
best4writing, I noticed that almost all of your posts drip with hate and ignorance, and yet you accused heterosexuals of hate and ignorance. You in fact yell it in all caps. You then accuse me of the same. You are a walking contradiction. You say you are Religious, and then start a debate about how Christians are the source of all chaos in the world. You should re-read my first post. I did not accuse you of anything. I merely responded to your comparisons. You say I'm angry, threatening and abusively calling you names. What name calling? What anger? What threat? Then you go on some rambling, 35 year dissertation on how the Church let you down. I have tried to make sense of that broken, tortured series of statements, to no avail. Do you even read your own statements?
You asked for the truth, and then say I'm attacking you. The Truth can Sting. You have such a closed, prejudiced mind. I did not accuse homosexuals of engaging in pedophilia, or necrophilia, or bestiality, I stated I was assuming YOU did not do it. You may do it. I just don't know you, and was not in a position to speak for you. You need to take a step back, take an objective look at your posts, and the reactions you generated. I pity you and those for whom you claim to speak. I think you need more assistance than you can get here. Seek professional help. Soon.
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Anonymous answered
Being heterosexual and knowing that you are a heterosexual is as simple an honest knowing of who you are attracted to sexually personally.  This applies when choosing sexual partners.  Living this way is a natural product of this knowlege.  Most heterosexuals have little shame of expressing their own sexuality to others, however they don't want to be thought of as homosexuals because it simply isn't true and is a non-accurate/incorrect representation of themselves as a people.  Most male heterosexuals by definition will choose female sexual partners exclusively.
A Patt Profile
A Patt answered
Very Interesting...heterosexuals must hate themselves or they would be answering this question by the dozens. Life for gays would be easy and acceptable IF HETEROSEXUALS WEREN'T SO FILLED WITH HATE AGAINST THEM. How many people in Germany did not 'come out' against the actions of the Nazis because of fear that they were in the minority among Germans? When heterosexuals can answer that question with their personal facts, they will understand about gays' fear of coming out. What if all people had to admit that 'in the beginning of human creation, as is proven about the earliest known creatures of the sea and present fruit flies: They are born with the choice to decide their sexuality.
COME OUT, COME OUT, WHEREVER YOU HETEROSEXUALS ARE AND TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT WHEN YOU CHOSE YOUR LIFESTYLE AND WHY YOU CHOSE IT!!!!!
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Elizabeth D.
Elizabeth D. commented
Weren't you the one asking what Blurtit would do or can do to prevent someone from being hateful and name calling? You seem to be the one looking for trouble. You should respect yourself as well as your sexuality enough to keep it to yourself instead of trying to shove it in everybody's face Best4writing. Like I said in my last answer to yet another of your Homosexual vs. Heterosexual themed questions you need to speak to a psychiatrist in order to work out all those subconscious insecurities you have regarding the sexual preferences you live with.
Elizabeth D.
Elizabeth D. commented
Weren't you the one asking what Blurtit would do or can do to prevent someone from being hateful and name calling? You seem to look for trouble. You should respect yourself as well as your sexuality enough to keep it to yourself instead of trying to shove it in everybody's face Best4writing. Like I said in my last answer to yet another of your Homosexual vs. Heterosexual themed questions you need to speak to a psychiatrist in order to work out all those subconscious insecurities you have regarding the sexual preferences you live with.
A Patt
A Patt commented
MAYBE EVERY PERSON BORN HAS A CHOICE. The oyster was created by the same God and research shows that PERHAPS EVERY HUMAN AND ANIMAL AND OTHER CREATED BEINGS:
Oysters Male or Female
There is no way of telling male oysters from females by examining their shells. While oysters have separate sexes, they may change sex one or more times during their life span. The gonads, organs responsible for producing both eggs and sperm, surround the digestive organs and are made up of sex cells, branching tubules and connective tissue.

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