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How do you tell your child you want them out of your life and no longer wish to be their mother feeling it is best for everyone if they are with someone else?

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Aldrich Ames Profile
Aldrich Ames answered

If you didn't want them, why did you have them in the first place?

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

You make sure that the child is placed in a loving home with people who will NEVER let him or her down the way you are. Then you make sure you let the child know it is YOU who is the problem, not them. It will still scar the child, but not as much as having to live with a mother who cannot love them the way they deserve. And you send child support to the new family.

SuperFly Original Profile

You've posted a question on this already and failed to address any advice or guidance anyone gave you. Like I said, you're definitely going to regret it. I suggest therapy.

Twallgirl Wallace Profile

There is no way you can do that without permanently damaging your relationship with your I know from experience how it feels not to be wanted by your parent. The person who is supposed to love you unconditionally, no matter what. Your statement though solidifies what the bible prophesied at Matthew 24:12: "Love of the greater number will cool off". So even the natural affection that a mother should have for a child would not be the same. This doesn't have to be your eventuality. You can chose to love your child and work through what problems you have. Have you tried praying and talking to a trusted , mature friend. I don't know all the facts but please give this matter prayerful consideration

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

You don't ! You don't EVER tell a child they are not wanted .. Period! 

That does not mean you shouldn't make better arrangements for a child's care if it is impossible to do yourself. That is an issue that can be handled (carefully) but with the proper support system in place it can be done with the least amount of collateral damage to the child.

Simply ripping a child's world apart by coldly saying the words of rejection "I don't WANT you" is not an option.

Zack -  Mr. GenXer Profile

This whole line of questioning seems suspect. They seem to be created only for shock value.

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SuperFly Original
Indeed, and it was done twice: http://relationships.blurtit.com/4525363/why-do-you-do-as-a-single-mother-when-you-want-your-child-out-of-yourwhich-has-been-made easily a troll. That or mentally unstable sheesh
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I thought so too. Just another troll.
Bikergirl Anonymous
Geeze .. I hope this is only a troll question .. It disturbs me deeply to think it could be a genuine question.

Problem is .. It could very plausibly BE a genuine question. There are a lot of people that are so emotionally damaged that 'this' logic may seem ok to them.

Disturbing indeed to think that someone could possibly think that by crushing a child emotionally in such a way is 'ok' .. that
'it's better for EVERYONE" .. period.
Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

This sounds a little bit like bovine excrement.

If you cared that much, you'd be doing everything you could to stay with them.

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