When you broke up with someone, how long did it take for you to get over it?

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Angela Anthony Profile
Angela Anthony answered

In my case, I was over him before I had the guts to break it off! So...not long!

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

It depends.

Relationships, good or bad, are habituating---it's going to take a while to disentangle.

And I imagine it depends on whether you are the "breaker" or the "breakee."

I remember one good relationship took me about 6 months before I "normalized" and was ready to date again.

I'm a male and that was when I was in my early thirties.

(And, just a comment---read a number of years ago that divorce took 6 months for a woman to recover; 2 years for a man, but that was not meant to be scientifically dispositive.)

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Jann Nikka
Jann Nikka commented
Yep
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
They're tougher than us, Tom. ;-/
Tom  Jackson
Tom Jackson commented
Maybe, Didge.

But I think they plan on doing it way before they actually do, and so they are much further along in the "adjustment" phase.
Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

I wasn't too keen on having to get over it so I found a compromise. I liked my first girlfriend so much I decided to keep her. That was in 1958 and so far it seems to be working out OK. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I guess we were just lucky, Virginia. Of course, you gotta work at it, too.
KB Baldwin
KB Baldwin commented
'58 - Wow! I waited till '63. So far she hasn't dumped me, altho I suspect sorely tempted once in a while.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Mine too. I think she only keeps me so she won't have to cook.
PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

It depends on the relationship. I was with someone for 5 years and I thought we were going to get married. It took me over 6 months to get over that one. Other relationships were shorter and took less time. Some only a week or two.

Zack -  Mr. GenXer Profile

You tell me when a person breaks up after 12 years.

Daisy Ellis Profile
Daisy Ellis answered

It depends.

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend 6 years ago but until now, I still think about him sometimes :<

Levi F. Profile
Levi F. answered

My first relationship was with a girl, and I wasn't entirely sure what I was doing at the time. Because of that, it didn't take too long to get over her after I broke up with her, but I began to feel bad about it later once I realized I was gay. She understood when she found all that out later and we are still friends to this day.

Austin Jones Profile
Austin Jones answered

it depends on how much I was in the relationship some just took a couple of weeks but some were as long as a couple of months such as one when I found her cheating with my best friend and she still trys to hook up with me agian 

Dance like a gypsy Profile

I'm still grieving a break up after nearly a year because it was that devastating. And it usually depends on the emotional attachment you had towards that person

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