Is it weird 4 a "grandma" to insist on visiting 3 weeks after you have a C-section, ask if your baby can sleep in the room with her at night, ask if she can take your baby in the shower with her, constantly try to get you to leave your house?

It doesn't sound like your idea of personal boundaries and hers line up. I only took my son in the shower with me once or twice and he was about two and got into a terrific mess. It was just easier to get both of us clean at the same time.

If the father is in the picture and this is his mom, then he should back you up on what you feel is appropriate behavior with the baby.

If you have to deal with her on your own, you might say, "Thelma, I'm not comfortable with you doing that with Jayden. I'm okay with this (whatever "THIS" is) but I'm not okay with THAT."

My aunt and uncle came to visit me three days after my C-section, but were well mannered, stayed for a couple of hours (they travelled from out of town and wanted to see the baby before they went out of the country for several months). I know you're still recuperating at three weeks, but three weeks is not unreasonable.

Keep saying, "No, I'm not comfortable with you doing that / saying that / wanting that", nicely to her. She may never get it. She may want you to lose your cool but just be nice and firm. Good luck.

Nope … sounds like a lonely, widowed/single grandma … or someone who doesn't quite get personal boundaries.  In other words, one of my relatives.  They were part of a large family, and think that such behavior is normal and not "intrusive".

No, grandmothers have a special love for their grandkids.

Kids relate to grand parents more than they do their parents...this tip is for the future.

I get the idea of coming to visit and help out after a C-section, as it is a tough thing to recover from and take care of a baby. However she is going overboard. I think it is time to tell grandma it is time she pack her bags and head on back home. Then I would call her doctor and have her evaluated for dementia.

Weird? Hell yes it's weird, bordering on criminally so. If what you claim is true, I wouldn't let this strange woman get near my child alone and tell her so in front of everyone who matters.