Do you think that ex girlfriends and ex boyfriends, can be already and TRULY friends?

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Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

I am friends with my ex-husband. He's even stayed in my house when he's come from out of state to visit our son. We met in 1977, dated for many years before we finally got married. After we married, we endured a tragic loss, the death of a son, which broke up the marriage.  (The son we lost was his by another relationship, in case you're confused.)

I never spoke a bad word my ex to our son, as my ex struggled with drugs and alcohol after the loss. It took many years for him to get back on track. By then, our son was old enough to ask questions, which I answered truthfully, but in an age-appropriate way.

So, yes it can happen that you can remain friends with an ex, depending on the circumstances surrounding the break-up and how close you were during the relationship. Hope this helps.

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Danae Hitch
Danae Hitch commented
Also, thank you for your kind words. I'm no saint. However, I've learned that many things change when you have a child. Inside, as my son approaches his 22nd birthday, a part of me is just holding my breath, as that was how old my step-son was when he died. I know there's no logical reason why I feel this way and I don't let it rule my life. But it's still there.
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Your son has an awesome mom. Thanks for making a difference in your child's life. I think that moms start holding their breath a lot from the moment they get pregnant. My kids are 20 and 24, and I'm always worried. I know it doesn't make sense, because my worry changes nothing, but it's how I roll. Must be a mother duty. :)
Danae Hitch
Danae Hitch commented
That makes me feel better! I don't talk about it a lot, because I think it makes me sound loony!
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Taylor Brookes answered

I once heard a saying which was "if two exes can remain friends, they are either still in love, or they never were". Maybe that applies here a bit. I personally don't think I could be friends with a ex, but everyone is different so yes I think they can be.

Janis Haskell Profile
Janis Haskell answered

Absolutely .... From my experience :)

Asma Jamil Profile
Asma Jamil answered

I think two can be true friends before being in a relationship. But after relationship or having feelings for someone, you can't pretend like to be just friends with that person.

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