What do you think about virginity? Should someone lose it ASAP or in the right time?‎

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Cyber Tooth Tiger Profile

Can you afford to raise a baby if a pregnancy happens?

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Nice Girl answered

Hey!

Virginity is not a disease that you should lose ASAP.... it's a precious thing... You should concentrate on your future and goals in life rather than sex and virginity!

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Virginity is an antiquated notion that you somehow lose something by having sex for the first time.  And who's to say what kind of sex (oral, vaginal, or anal) is the kind of sex in one would lose their virginity?  The concept of virginity makes women who have had sex somehow seem dirtier than one who has not.  It makes men who have not had sex somehow less of a man.  In both cases, whether one has had sex or not really doesn't matter--it's simply whether or not they have chosen to have sex.

Having sex does come with some real potentially life changing effects and that is why it is important to be mature and educated.  Having vaginal sex does come with the risk of becoming pregnant.  Any kind of sex (oral, vaginal, or anal) does come with risks of transmitting sexual infections (STIs).  It is important when and if you choose to engage in sex that 1) It is consensual between all adult partner(s) 2) It is safe (using male/female condoms and/or dental dams).

Having sex won't change you as a person.  It's just having sex, so do it when you feel (and are) prepared and when it seems right.

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Lia Tan
Lia Tan commented
I came to say the same thing but you beat me to it haha! This is an excellent answer! I liked how you described it as a belief rather than a physical thing because that really is what it is. Virginity is not something someone can look at physically. The whole hymen thing for women is in fact a lie. That's why virginity is, as you said, simply a notion.

I would also like to add in that sex may have life changing effects on a person psychologically. 
Although these psychological effects may have a heavier impact to those who firmly hold that virginity is super sacred (I mean it is special, but it's not all that), sex can be a very emotional thing that, when done with the wrong person in the wrong time, can be terrifying. But other than that, your answer was spot on to what I wanted to say!
Ella Kirk
Ella Kirk commented
Exactly what I was going to say!! I had sex for the first time when I was 15, and I regret it. I was a bit of a skank back then, and now I'm 17 and I'm pregnant. No I wouldn't say that I'm still skanky, as I am in a loving, open and honest relationship, but don't rush in to it if you're not ready to deal with the consequences! I am so blesses to be going through this with such a supportive kind boyfriend, but unfortunately some girls aren't as lucky... A lot of girls who get pregnant as a teen face abandonment, and I'm not trying to scare you, I just want to make everybody as aware as possible of the unfortunate consequences :)

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