I suggest you develop a more understanding and tolerant nature. Women are not put on this earth for your pleasure.
What can I use that will help increase the libido for women?
Men need to treat women better.
The best thing to improve her sex drive is to demonstrate to her some caring attention. The type of attention which shows that you have her in mind - not only for sex.
Comfortable hugs, mild kisses on her behalf lips (those on her encounter), cooking the woman's a meal (understanding how to cook if you do not know how), performing the dishes, washing the house (your own and hers, if you are not residing together), and so on.