There isn't really a one-size-fits-all "perfect" first date — everybody's different, and what one person things is a good first-date activity might seem boring or unenjoyable to somebody else.
How To Have A Good First Date
- Make a suggestion for a date, and let them choose the specifics. For example, if you're taking somebody to the cinema, let them pick the movie you watch. It's important that you make some suggestion, though, otherwise it looks like you don't care (or can't make decisions!). Good communication is key to a good relationship, so start how you mean to carry on, and make sure you've both had some input in the decision!
- Be confident, and show you're interested. If the other person doesn't think you're particularly engaged (they might get this impression if you're nervous) then they're less likely to say yes to another date.
- Ask questions, and don't just talk about yourself.
- Don't talk about your ex.
- If you're of drinking age, don't get drunk. You might feel more confident if you've had a few, but your judgement will be impaired, and it's not a good idea to let that happen!
- Keep an eye on your date's body language, and act accordingly. If they don't seem interested, or you don't think it'll work, don't push things.
- Think of a few things to talk about beforehand, just in case you get stuck — nobody likes an awkward silence!
- Do something that involves getting to know each other. I'd personally say no to a movie date, just because it shows lack of imagination. You also won't get to talk much at the cinema. However, I know that some girls do like movie dates because it's what people do in movies and on TV. It really depends on the person you're taking on a date — some people like conventional dates, and others will prefer something more imaginative!
- Do all the obvious things like washing, making sure your breath is fresh, and wearing clean clothes!
- If the date goes well, suggest another one when you say goodbye. People like to know where they stand.
- Remember that your date is probably just as anxious as you are, so just relax and enjoy yourself! If you look uncomfortable, chances are that your date will then feel uncomfortable, too.
