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What Is Good About Being The Middle Child?

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Being the middle child SUCKED growing up, I had three on each side so talk about getting lost in the mix! But now that I'm older I'm realizing all the benefits that came out of it. You're used to being independent with no one to push you, so when you get out into the real world you don't expect others to do anything for you.  Also, with so much pressure on the older siblings and so much spoiling going on "downstairs", don't be surprised if you end up being the most well-adjusted person out of the whole dang group! You may even become your parents confidant when they need someone to talk to about all the problems the rest of the kids are giving them.  Actually, a lot of people start talking to you, because as a middle child you get awfully good at listening. We are the natural born psychologists of the world. And yes, probably the most attractive as well ;)
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ARTNZEN PEPE answered
I am a middle child & growing up YES it sucked.  Always feeling unloved, unwanted & just that lost feeling.  I am 43 now & I believe it might have been the best thing in the world to be a middle child.  Middle kids tend to look at situations from both sides.  We are also the most creative - so art, music, writing are great career choices.  We do tend to be loners but hello then we don't have to rely on anyone but ourselves.  You obtain great survival skills because in your brain its up to you to get it done. 

I actually like being a middle child!  I don't get along with my siblings though & I never had a great relationship with my mom...
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It Seriously sucks being the middle child of the family.  You get no love, no attention, no praises for accomplishments (even if you achieved more than your older sibling), and you always get ignored.  When ever guests come to my house, they ask the oldest one how they are doing in school, what university they will be going to..blah blah blah and they speak to the youngest one as if he was a 1 year old baby.  What do they say to me!? All they say is "hi how are you" *shakes hand* and leaves to go talk more to my other idiot siblings.

BELIEVE IT OR NOT, YOU don't KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE A MIDDLE CHILD IF YOU AREN'T ONE.
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Being a middle child myself I find that my parents lack of structure with me has actually been an upside to my birth order. Instead of having the pressure of my parents dreams, like my older brother, I am able to really discover what I want to do with my life without much parental intervention. Also, I can look at my younger sister and be grateful that they pampered her, not me. I know I'm the person I am today because my parents have actually practiced what they preach to me. They tell my sister that she has to work for what she wants, but being the baby she gets everything she wants by asking. They were much stricter with me, and now I know the value of hard work. However, it seems other middle children have reacted to these same childhood experiences differently, leading to rebellion or becoming people pleasers. Honestly, determining what is positive about being a middle child is all about how you look at it: If it makes their childhood more enjoyable, or if it helps them grow up into more responsible citizens. Still being a mere child myself, age 13, I think being the middle child has made me feel like I didn't get a the best childhood, but when I get older there is no doubt in my mind that I'll be able to function just as well as the adults around me that are firstborns, youngest children, and only children. Even though I'm still pretty young I would never want to give up being the middle child. My siblings have showed me what stereotypical birth order personalities are like, and I must say, the middle child is by far the best. Not the best childhood, but definitely the best in the long run.
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Being in the middle, this is one of the worst things to be in, I have experienced it because I'm in the middle as well, you just feel so... Un-loved and alone, separate from your family, you just don't feel in part with anything, but only with alone things like reading a book or something else. Relatives or others coming in and only talking to your older sibling about the things he is going to progress in life and etc and the younger talking to them with love whilst for the middle its only 'so how are you' with a short conversation and less attention, your mother and father having on trust in you to succeed in life and only giving hollow encouragements to somehow make your self esteem rise,  this distraught feeling you have can't be felt by any one except by the middle children be honored to lift the heavy burden.

O YEAH by the way if your in the middle it is easier to be mysterious, and girls like mysteriousness so it does have one good point YAY

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I don't know why but middle children seem to be the most good-looking ones out of the other two. That's just from my observation and opinion haha.
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It rather sucks being the middle child. The oldest has more freedom to just up and leave the house when they are ready, and if they are not they still get the brunt of mom and dad's praise and achievement, and the youngest will always be the baby of the family doted on, loved to death, and defended by all corners of the houshold because "theyre younger than you, don't treat them *insert scenario here* that way". The middle kid is stuck striving for attention and trying to gain it any way possible usually in extremes of good or bad. I'm the middle child of my house, and older sister and a younger. Always having my bad points thrown in my face and being compared to everyone in my family. I had all of my sisters teachers growing up. Your sister could do this, she was great at this, when she was your age she was already doing this... Rarely if ever did I get praise for how well I could accomplish something. I grew up hating and resenting most of my family. Cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles, you name it. I either hated them, or didnt know them except for family reunions. Even in college I have professors telling me about how my family did things after I finish some project I thought I could be proud of. I did a book report on the conspiracies within The Da Vinci Code. I had hand painted posters, diagrams, and a paper written to the max word/character limit. Instead of saying good job or nice effort, I got a 7 minute narritive flashback of how my older sister did hers on one of The Lord of the Rings books with clay figures, a solidified foam diorama, posters, and her friends acting out scenes in the book as she explained "the inner depth of a hidden plotline" that she had connected with. Being the middle born, for myself, is horrible. I still don't know what my grade for that report was because my Professor always seemed to get distracted before telling me.
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Joedan Pabon answered
Nothing really haha, I'm the third child of 5 kids. Being the middle child is the worst because you feel lonely and sad. The two oldest are close and the two youngest are close too soo I really have no one to share my secrets or feelings. The other is thing that you want attention from your parents and is like they ignore you sometimes, the only time they pay attention to you is when you get in trouble. Sometimes I wonder if something bad happens to me would they care. I'm really happy to see that I'm not the only going through this.
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Dipa Suresh answered
As a middle child myself, I feel there are more disadvantages than advantages in being the middle one.
You are neither here nor there. If you are the older child, you would have been the first to arrive, and you would be pampered by your parents, as this would be their first experience at bringing up a child.
On the other hand, if you were the third child, then you would most likely be pampered and indulged by fond parents, because you would forever remain their 'baby', the youngest child of all.
If you were the middle child, however, you would neither be the oldest, and therefore deserving of great attention, and neither would you be the youngest, and therefore more deserving of pampering.
All is not lost, however, if you are a middle child. You will never be blamed or caught for any misdemeanor; your older sibling will be brought to book, since he is expected to be more responsible. You will never be expected to take charge too; your older sibling will have to bear the burden. You will also be allowed to do things at your age, which your older sibling would not have been allowed to do. It would be possible for you to escape facing the consequences of any actions that you three may commit as a team; you will always be considered blameless, and your baby sibling will be considered a baby for the rest of his life.
Therefore, it is good to be a middle child, although I, myself, would have preferred being the older or the younger!
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I find my situation as a middle child to be rather depressing. Because the oldest is a complete failure and moron, I have to act the part of the oldest but am still treated like the middle that I am. The oldest is completely off the hook when it comes to responsibility of any kind, but she is still treated better and given more attention. She's never accomplished anything, but she's treated like a star. The youngest is a complete jerk, but he's also treated more favorably.

My experience as the middle child has been horrible to say the least. I get pushed aside in favor of the other two, and whenever I needed reassurance, I've gotten the shrug. I have found nothing good about it. I just happen to be the smartest one and perhaps the best looking. But that's too small of a consolation prize for the misery I still continue to suffer to this day.
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I'm 12 and well I'm in the middle it sucks because my two other sisters bond with each other and leaves me out. Since my eldest sister is going to collage, I wanted to spend more time with her but she goes with the second eldest sister watch movies, play, talk everyday. The worst thing is they don't even bother asking me to join them, and ignores me when I try to talk. The youngest right now is the only one playing with me because I have no one to talk to and the youngest is only 6. And now that were soon going to be 5 girls, because my mom is preg.
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I'm a middle child. I honestly think middle children are the most attractive. We are WAY more creative and a lot more fun. So I guess those are a few good things. :/
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Evelyn Vaz answered
There are many good reasons to being a middle child. One of the most added advantages is to receive love from both the sides. Even you can bribe either the elder one when the younger one gets you into trouble or you can bribe the younger one when the elder one gets you into trouble. So you see you have a whole lot of advantage.

You can ask the elder one for money when you need and at the same time emotionally blackmail the younger one. ;)
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The middle children are always the most talented, attractive, and most perfect:p See, when your parents have the first child there kinda messed up, by the second wa la perfect...& than the third...uhhh don't get me started! Lol. But seriously I am the middle child of 3 girls..and we are all pretty, unique, and talented in our own ways! Though we are completely different with personality. But being the middle child is the worst...
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There is not a lot of bad being a middle child ... Like sometimes you might feel that way but there really isn't. Me , I'm a middle child ... And also the most expensive. But I'm Always ! The blame when ever my little sister complains. That is just because when you get older you are expected to become more responsible.
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I'm a middle child. I know its tough sometime because you lack attention while growing up but  sometimes its great being  the middle. Your parents would probably allow you to any plans you have settled with your friends, they wont notice your mistakes, and you can make your own decisions. Trust me you'll get through it.

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Being a middle child is horrible sometimes! Most of the time, i'm left to alone, my parents don't converse normally with me, my siblings get all the attention and no matter what I do I can never get the praise I think I deserve. 

My sister does softball and my brother does Jui jitsu(?) and Karate, What about me you may ask? I did absolutely NOTHING. My parents didn't even bother to try and find an afterschool activity for me. Since I argue with my siblings alot (And get scolded by my father and mother) I don't have very good social skills and I have troubles making friends..... I usually scare them and they just think I have issues. 

But aside from all that, I believe that being a middle child has some good points, You eventually grow up and become much more independent. Just keep that in mind and everything will be fine

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Being the middle child myself, is cool cause you get lot of thing and a lot of love and you definity get to rule your younger brothers and sister
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Being the middle child is tough and I sould know cause I'm a middle child. The younger sibling gets all the attenion from guests and the older 1 gets them to talk about stuff they want and then you try talking about something else they don't.
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A lot of people say that being the middle child is the worst and you are not loved but if your parents love your other siblings then they love you just the same. I have noticed that the attention has gone a lot to my older brother who is in his senior year of high school and getting him ready for college, and my little sister has always been an attention grabber I am not sure why though. It's not just with my parents too, like my little sisters teachers remember my brother but the don't remember me when they had me just 2 years ago and they had him 5 years ago. When little stuff like this happens I just laugh it off because I know I am a good kid and I know my mom and dad and siblings love me very very much. Sometimes you are just lost in the middle but thats something you are going to have to deal with being the middle child. As long as you are an equally good parent to all of your kids, then you have nothing to worry about when parenting your middle child.
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Well I'm a middle child and I always get blamed by my youngest and oldest brother and sister its like I'm their bait to get me in trouble for something I didnt do my older brother is 1 year older than me and my younger sister is 4 years younger than me and the oldest one needs to grow up fast like right now it feel like I'm the only mature one in my house for example when I go to the mall with my mom brother sister and my 5 cousins that are younger than me they have "partners" except me so I always ask my mom if I could go with her but this is her answer "No have fun playing with your cousins because they have nobody to play with " I say to my mom the 11 year old one goes with my brother and a 10 year old one goes with my sister that leaves me with a 7 year old , 6 year old, and a 3 year old and what I'm I supposed to do with them go on the pineapple hopper and lil kids rides then my mom do believe me thats another reason being a middle child sucks  because your parents don't ever believe you and think you are making things up just to tell you snitches are bitches and those snitches are my brother sister and my 5 cousins
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Not a FREAKING thing. it's all BAD! (That is not my words, I'm his mom). He is one of the nicest people that I know, and that comes from the bottom, top, and all sides of my heart! He is a giant teddy bear, and I am TRULY BLESSED to have him in my life.

Realistically, I have 2 middle children (4 all together). They are the most kind hearted, generous, sincere people to know.
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Being the middle child is aw some because when your doing orders the middle child always stay it's place you can not do middle to oldest because there would be no youngest you  can't do middle to youngest because there would be no oldest

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