In a family with multiple children does the mother consider the first child born more special than the others?


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Yin And Yang Profile
Yin And Yang answered

No, they are all loved the same however there are personalities that mesh better then others and also gender of the child can play a part and the age and/or stage of the child. For example, my oldest and I went through a phase where she and I didn't have much in common but she was a total daddy's girl. Then I had another child (she was 17 when he was born) and that "mother" instinct kicked in. Suddenly she showed interest in something to do with me. She is a wonderful big sister/helper. It's been three years and she just recently got married. We have new roles now. And I can accept that. This is a new season for me.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

A mother loves each child with the same intensity. Most mothers would give up their own life to save any of their children. A mother may relate better to one child more than another, but that doesn't mean she loves that child any less. And the birth order has nothing to do with whom she bonds with.

Janis Haskell Profile
Janis Haskell answered

No, I don't think many mothers love one child more than the others.  If they do, I doubt if it's because of their order of birth.

Ancient One Profile
Ancient One answered

In a family that has multiple children the question of "which child is loved the most" is always brougt up. It may be difficult to fathom but a loving mother does love each child equally yet each love is different. The mother's love and need to protect and nurture each child is always there. The difference in the love, outwardly, on occassion is seen as favortism for one over the other when in fact it isn't. Many moms and dads actually torture themselves trying to "show" to themselves and the world they love each child equally.

Darik Majoren Profile
Darik Majoren answered

Usually . . . I find the dynamic of such a family results in the first born being "Co-Mother" . . . This was certainly the case where large families were more the "Norm" in past generations . . .

In this there was a certain level of maturity that was "Expected" and usually to the detriment of the first born having an actual Childhood.

Responsitbility to the younger siblings was a burden in this regard.

Michael Poland Profile
Michael Poland answered

Individual experience varies.

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