Is it just me noticing a disturbing level of questions about 'young love' .. In scenarios that involve two people discovering a potential 'love' relationship?

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Jaimie  JT Profile
Jaimie JT answered

I don't find it disturbing at all. I think it's kinda cute :) when I was a kid we used to play a game called M.A.S.H. To find out which boy in our class we were gonna marry and where we would live when we grow up....it was serious stuff back then:) I think all they really wanna hear is " yes" he likes you cos they're young and " in love". It's not hurting anything ...you don't have to answer the question if you don't want to ...and they'll grow out of it cos we all did ... Cos I said so :)

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Bikergirl Anonymous
Speaking of being judgmental .. I'm not even going to go there.

I never said I don't 'care' about the current younger generation .. pffttt .. Clearly that is not the case. THIS is the generation my own grandchildren are llving in. i am not as heartless as you choose to believe ... OF COURSE I FREEK'N CARE!

What I am saying is .. there is a difference between 'the old days' and now in terms of 'hardships' AND the resources and support available to those enduring hardships.

It's True .. a hardship is a hardhip .. There is no question that some kids nowdays are legitimately challenged on every level due to their circumstances .. We are not .. or should I say I am not talking about those kids. The kids who don't have any choices available to them because they either have lousy parents, or because their parents are less fortunate and simply can not provide for them, sometimes due to their own choices or because they too have no choices available to them.
Bikergirl Anonymous
I am talking about the majority of youngsters who come from 'average' and 'good' families .. Who are enabled to think they don't have to work for anything. Schools are structured now that they don't even 'fail' kids anymore due to their not even bothering to try. Society has come up with a system of labeling behaviours so that there is no distinction between those who are challenged to learn and those who choose not to learn or at the least don't apply themselves because they choose not to because passing a grade is just not that important or it's 'beneath them'. Like somehow getting educated is a 'bad' thing .. and in order to be a 'bad ass' they have to thumb their noses at structured education.

THAT is what I am talking about .. The sheer numbers of kids that are becoming the norm, the majority in society. It is obtusely disturbing how many kids graduate highschool yet are completely or primiarliy iliiterate. THAT is what I am talking about. Those who choose to fail in order to be 'cool'.
Jaimie  JT
Jaimie JT commented
I did respond to this but I think my response was deleted ;) it wasn't anything rude .... I just Said I was to hungover to read all that two days later .... I'm sure whatever you said is valid though ... You win cos I can't read all that on a freakin Sunday :)
Ancient Hippy Profile
Ancient Hippy answered

Nowadays, kids live in electronic envelopes and need a device to investigate their love life.

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Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

We had lots of teen questions on Ask, of course, but the number of "Does s/he like me?" questions has been building lately. At least we're not getting the "How do I know if I'm pregnant?" questions or, worse, "If I'm pregnant, how can I tell if it's mine?"

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
It was different in my day, Ancient. There was no sex education in Australian schools and most certainly none from my family. My parents would never have discussed such a thing. I had to pick it up by osmosis.
Ancient One
Ancient One commented
I hadf to plead with a public libranian who allowed me to view a medical book with pencil drawings.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Those were the days. Brings to mind the question, "Are you old enough to remember when the air was clean but sex was dirty?"
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Rooster Cogburn , Rooster Cogburn, answered

No, it's not just you. I've seen a lot of them lately. I guess parents don't have time any more to talk with their kids about these things, so they come here for opinions from people they don't even know. Have to let most of them ask any way.

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Bikergirl Anonymous
I would never talk to my Mom about ANYTHING like that .. because back in those days, a young child was treated with a very dissmissive attitude. If I opened up to that I would have been made fun of. I learned at a very early age to make my own judgements .. as diffiucult as that was, I had to learn the hard way about how to interact with people, and how the world worked in terms of 'relationships'. Adults in those days believe kids should be seen and not heard .. so it was very rare to be able to talk about any kind of personal issues. Then when I became of age (so to speak), adults seemed to be more receptive to digussing those kinds of things .. but by that time, I was closed off to opening up. I never shared my thoughts with my parents about 'love' much. They seemed to have problems of their own and my problems were just not a priority...or at least that;s the way it seemed to me.

As a parent, I made sure to never make that mistake. I wanted to make sure I was the friend my kids needed in terms of comfort and support whenever they were challenged or confused about their emotional maturity and the process involved .. right from when they were toddlers.
Bikergirl Anonymous
I think, as a society, we have come full circle. In todays day and age where so many parents are once again caught up with their own lives and ignore thier children's challenges in creating relationships of their own because it has become enormously complicated.

Mental and emotional health have been so dissected that everything has a pigeon hole in terms of labels and treatments and therapy .. etc etc etc. It's overwhelming. What used to be deemed as 'bad behaviour of a spoiled child' now have a very scientific label like compulsive and antisocial behaviours .. It's hard for parents to not only understand it but to 'parent' a child who is inflicted with it, so it often gets either overlooked, ignored or highlighted to such an exptreme that it overshaddows life in general.
Jaimie  JT
Jaimie JT commented
Okay ....this is a conversation from Friday ... It's now Sunday and I'm to hungover to read all that today.
Darik Majoren Profile
Darik Majoren answered

Agreed, they would have just as much luck if they asked an inanimate object.

We have no idea what is going on in "Lover Boy's" head . . . All we can ask are "What are the social cues?"

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Questions like .. "Is he/she interested"? Questions that are impossible to answer, when the asker can't even determine what is going on.  How in the world could anyone even answer that kind of question.

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Darik Majoren
Darik Majoren commented
Agreed . . . either they are socially inept, ignorant (or naïve) about the world around them or just throwing out nonsensical questions for sport.
Ancient One
Ancient One commented
I usually ignore those.
Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

I don't think it helps anyone when all you've known is how to stare at your phone and text someone, instead of looking up and actually talking to them.

For some kids, it's the kiss of death when you tell them to actually go and talk to someone. They don't know how. They don't know how to read body language or social cues.

I see moms and dads out in public with their kids. What are they doing? Staring at their phone instead of interacting with the kids. You learn a lot from your parents and what they are learning is how to disappear into a phone or tablet. Pretty sad.

Virginia Lou Profile
Virginia Lou answered

Bikergirl I just now found your question...

I have noticed that also, and not really sure what so many such questions might mean...

But in that context I do also notice an occasional question coming through, typically a young man, on the order of "how do I just talk with a girl without her thinking I want romantic involvement?"

It does seem to me that something is strange.

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