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Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

You've got a bit to learn about women, and about relationships.

You don't LET her do anything. She has a mind of her own. She doesn't need your permission.

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Rath Keale
Rath Keale commented
This is exactly what I was going to say. Perhaps I'll say the same thing anyway, but in a different way.
CalTex - Doug Morgan
@Rath: That's why I answered the way I did. But Didgeri's seems to be the definitive answer.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Lack of tact? I thought you were the epitome of restraint.
Matt Radiance Profile
Matt Radiance answered

Yes, My girlfriend is free to go anywhere she likes.Because she's my girlfriend not my personal stuff, I don't own her & she's a very independent human being. She can decide to do anything she likes & hang with anyone she wants. 

The first foundation of relationship is "Trust" & "Respect" . We trust each other, I have so many females friends as well, is she worried? Nope, friends means friends, these things are something we never even consider to have problems with, It's a lol. 

But if we get uncomfortable with someone we hang with by any reason, We don't order each other, We don't ban,We won't yell.We request each other & express our discomfort. Sit & talk like mature people & in the end, for the sake of each other, we decide what's right to both feel comfortable in the same time.

Hey Hey Profile
Hey Hey answered

She can stay with anyone she wants to. What makes you think you're the boss of her?  She can go anywhere she wants, anytime she wants and she doesn't need your permission.

Rath Keale Profile
Rath Keale answered

No wonder you are 'anonymous' with a question like this!

You do not own your girlfriend.  She is not your object or your slave.  The idea that a guy can own a girl and control her actions is the primary reason that guys and husbands get dumped.  It's guys who feel that they have a right to control girls that live long rage-filled lives filled with loneliness. 

You need to modernize your thinking if you expect to have relationships with girls and women. 

mohammad mahmoudi Profile

You can't control anyone a lot ,even if she's your girlfriend! She can go anywhere she wants to go .if your Gf is smart she does not go to a place that is not fit for her..! If you're afraid that the guy may rob your girlfriend you need to trust people that your girlfriend trusts..! To be honest everything depends on your girlfriend .she can do anything good or bad ..! Don't take it hard anyway

Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

Would you LET HER?  What makes you think it's your place to either let her or not let her do anything?  Sure, if she's doing something you find unacceptable, and she doesn't see it that way, you have every right to walk away.  Unless this person is a child or you are their parent, you don't get to decide what they do or don't do.

CalTex - Doug Morgan Profile

Should she "let you" have a say in what she does or doesn't do?  Neither of you are in control of what the other one does.  You are only in control of how you respond to what the other one does.  The way it works is that you talk over issues the two of you have and try to come to an agreement.  If you can't do that, and the issue is important enough, then the two of you go your separate ways.

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Anonymous answered

She doesn't need your permission to go spend time with a friend without you.  Your trust issues are your problem, not hers.

Keep on trying to tell her where she can and can't go and with whom, and you'll be single again soon enough.

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Allo Vera answered

Yes because they've obviously been friends for some time. If she wanted to be with him she wouldn't be with you because it would send the wrong message. If he wanted to be with her then the awkwardness would have ended the friendship. What you are saying is you don't trust your girlfiend so your relationship is doomed to failure. You don't have to trust the male friend just your girlfriend, as she is in control of what she does and doesn't do. If she doesn't feel insulted by being told you do not trust her, then the controlling will be a turn off. She is choosing to be with you. Women value their friendships, you are saying she must end her friendship to be with you because you do not trust her, so do not be surprised when she see's the controlling and runs a mile.

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