Is it bullying? (read below)

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Is it bullying? (read below)

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Answer 1

Well when she told you to put the label on her head...That's exactly what I would have done, get a piece of tape and stick it on her head! If you do something like that just once, (not harmful mind you) chances are they will leave you alone. Good luck!

Answer 2

The past 6 months at work I felt as if I was being a little bullied. Didn't think anything of it at first but people came up to me and told me that they didn't like how I was being treated. Basically one of the ladies I work with , she's a strong character and often talks down to me. She makes me feel really stupid. Today I was talking to another colleague and she bellowed at me 'what are you doing??', she's always so inquisitive , she bosses me around and tells me what to do. And if I go somewhere (e.g. To a customer) she'll demand to know what I'm doing... She's not my boss! Today her and the other ladies were laughing at me... I know they think its harmless but I suffer from depression so my self esteem is already rock bottom. I had asked a question , (albeit a silly one) and they made me feel really stupid about it. They always laugh at me , make me the ass of the joke. Example: ME: Where should I put the label? HER : On my head , where else?' . Should I feel upset?

Answer 3

Breaking the cycle of bullying can be difficult once your self-esteem is low and the bully feels like she "knows" you or has "classified you" as weak - I think that's why in prison they recommend you attack someone on our first night to show all the other prisoners that you're dangerous to mess with (I don't actually know if that's true, but I've heard it on tv)

Anyway, back to your situation...

To get her to reevaluate her relationship with you, I think you'll have to do something unprecedented.

As the above person mentioned, standing up to her in front of everyone is one way of doing that.

For example, the next time she says even the smallest thing, you could just in a loud firm voice so everyone can hear "hey, what's your problem? I'm just trying to do my job stop trying to bully me you (insert personal insult here)"

There's nothing that gets people taking notice like calling someone a bully in public.

The alternative is just to report her.

Put it in writing, be super official and formal about it. Don't come across as upset or seeking revenge in any way. As the answerer above mentioned, work places won't stand for people who disrupt teamwork, and they also won't like the idea of someone being abusive to the point that their colleagues work performance is suffering.

Put that in your complaint.

Tell them she has made your work environment difficult, has reduced your efficiency as you're always having to deal with abuse from her, and list specific incidents and witnesses that will prove what is going on.

I am pretty sure your workplace will take something like that seriously. And even if they don't immediately, there are further legal courses of action you can take.

Either way, the important thing is to draw the line and stand up for yourself.

Unfortunately, you are going to come across people like this often in life, and you won't always be able to get around them, so you may as well face up to tackling a bully now, as I think it will make you a stronger person for the future.

Good luck, and I'm around if you need a chat!

Answer 4

Revoked response. I hope the situation ameliorated. You didn't deserve such treatment. You are strong.

Answer 5

Honestly I don't know how people can be so mean now and days sometimes people hurt others cause they think they are cool mean while really they are the ones who are making a fool of them seleves. In my opinion I would consider it bullying. Bullies like to think they no it all and they do not realize the damage that put into tht person. Right now the best thing that you can do is when they are being an ass to you don't fight fire with fire just do the best you can to be nice to them. And if things get worse run it by someone. And if they won't take care of it. I WILL !