Is there such thing as being 'too good-looking' for someone?

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Yo Kass Profile
Yo Kass answered

Yes, I think so.

Looks are one of the things that are taken into consideration in a relationship, that obvious.

But in some relationships, looks are a very big deal... In others (perhaps where the chemistry and bond is stronger), then things work because of a connection on a "deeper" level, and looks aren't as important then.

If an individual places a lot of importance on looks though, when someone he or she perceives to be much more attractive comes along, it may seem very daunting, or even trigger feelings of insecurity in this person.

Building a relationship when these feelings of inadequacy or intimidation exist may be difficult or even impossible, and this is why I think, it some people's eyes, there is such a thing as being too good looking for someone.

It's all based on a fear of being rejected, dumped, or left heartbroken I guess...

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Adila Adila
Adila Adila commented
Thanks... :/ so now I'm under the illusion that a guy I like is too good-looking for me!
Yo Kass
Yo Kass commented
Ah it's about you! Well... it could mean you are afraid of being rejected too
John McCann Profile
John McCann answered

Most couples are close to matching in their level of attractiveness and those in the tail of this distribution, those widely variant in attractive appearance, have a " story " to tell.

Resources and status can get men women that are much more attractive than themselves and a few women can do the same with men. Other than that, saints, perhaps, would mismatch this way.

Did you not think this particular human behavior was not quantified?

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John McCann
John McCann commented
@ Kass Yassin

" Or I could be completely wrong.. what do you guys think? "

" So, if this theory is correct "

A fair summation of the work done in this area and a scientific theory does not need my thinking on it to be well supported by the evidence.

You seem to have the vulgar meaning of theory here and that is not the meaning given to this work on human mating done by biologists. ( human ethology and human behavioral ecology )

Social scientists and other of that ilk have " criticisms " of the work done on human mating by biologists, but from people ( social scientists ) who come to conclusions and then look for evidence to support such conclusions ( the opposite of science ) criticisms are as weak as their evidence.
Adila Adila
Adila Adila commented
@Kass I guess it's fairly subjective...but it is commented on more. When a man is better-looking than his partner he is more likely to feel confident and cocky about it...whereas a woman who is with a man not as good looking as her she will refuse to say he is any less good-looking than her!

And yes people notice it a lot more. But I am seeing it a lot more....but then one question springs to mind.. who are we to judge who is good looking or not? Beauty is the eye of the beholder. :/
Adila Adila
Adila Adila commented
@John Thanks John :) But you know guys these days...they want something more. You'd think that was women...the ones that are looking for perfection but now men are more picky than women. :/
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angie zhang answered

Yes I reckon there is a such thing as ‘ too goodlooking ‘
depending on the person , usually we do sometimes compare ourselves to other people , eg. Like you see some model you reckon if perfect and you see yourself as less .. Which you aren’t , but some people think of themselves as maybe , ‘ ugly ‘ or ‘ not decent ‘  or ‘ average’ and they may see some model and wonder , ‘ they tooo goodlooking ‘ , from your  perspective , like for example you see a guy and you may have a crush on him because hes  really goodlooking or great personality or whatever and you think you can never be with that person because they are too ‘ goodlooking ‘ for you , and thinking you don’t deserve that good , but that’s untrue
. Physical outside appearance doesn’t mean you are too good or low for someone ,but sometimes we label people as ugly , out of our league , not for us etc. And we also think we aren’t good enough , as ‘ perks of a wallflower says ‘ we accept the love we think we deserve’ ...

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angie zhang
angie zhang commented
no you don't need to let go of him , we all have a perception of goodlooking or ugly or perfect , yet we always consider ourselves as unworthy, plus that's good that you aren't scared or too shy to go for someone you reckon is more goodlooking , they probably mean you area really nice pretty amazing girl and that this guy probably aint worth you , but everyones worthy no matter how goodlooking you think they are . And just because ' being too goodlooking' is personal preference , but you can definitely go for someone you may think is really goodlooking or even too goodlooking and there is nothing that's seemingly stopping from you getting to him apart from this and , and this shouldn't be a issue if you both like each other after maybe knowing him more etc.
Adila Adila
Adila Adila commented
I know this sounds bad....but I need someone good-looking on my level :/ If my partner was too good-looking for me I'd forever feel insecure!
angie zhang
angie zhang commented
aaw well seeing as other people are saying your too goodlooking for him , he may also feel insecure , you should just get ot know him better looks really dont matter if you like someone :D
Brian Scott Profile
Brian Scott answered

No, there isn't. Looks are superficial and they don't last. It's what is inside that truly counts

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