Yes it saddens me but no matter how many times you tell them they are better than that they dont listen....i was that girl at one time and the lessons i have learned are invaluable...thankfully that was all i took with me from those relationships and i hope the same for others....this is a problem in our current society and we need to educate our kids so they arent so blinded by the "perfect image" the media has shoved down our throats
It does not sadden me it sickens me to see them think they are worth less(worthless) and accept this treatment. And to give away what was meant for marriage for the rest of their lives to someone who has no desire to be with them for life and raise a family.what kills me is they keep going back instead of reporting it and getting a restraining order.just taking it that you meant abuse /by bruisers.
Yes, it makes me very sad. I believe this is a direct result of a bunch of a$$holes who cannot parent. Before people have families, they should consider how much GARBAGE they plan to dump on an innocent child. Another big problem is babies having babies. Again this is because there is a lack of parenting. When people have children, the focus should be on making the next generation's life BETTER than yours. All of the alcoholics, welfare cases and druggies need to be sterilized.
The beginnings of a low self esteem or an appreciation of self begins in the home with the parents. Often we learn from what we see. After my Dad died, my Mom married an abuser and a user. He beat the holy do-do out of her and stole every penny she earned (he did not work). This was after I was long gone from home and married to my husband. The neighbors would call and say, "He is beating her again, I can hear her screaming." By the time the cops got there or I did, he would be gone and she would swear that she had fallen down or had a car wreck or some other cover story. Why?? I begged for an answer and she told me that it was because she loved him and he loved her. Love???? How is it that you can love someone that beats the beejeebers out of you on a regular basis, leaves no money for food in the household or any way to pay the bills while he goes and gambles? Love! You have to be kidding me. All she wanted was a man around to make her look good, he was one year older than me and she loved to go dancing with her young husband. Stupid! But what do you do? All you can do is talk until you are blue in the face and go pick her up from the hospital and talk some more. My Mother finally (after 8 years of beatings) divorced her abuser. I have no answers. Only the same question you asked - Why do they have such low self esteem that they are willing to live (and possibly die) with someone that cares so little for them? How do you correct such irresponsible behavior? I never learned the trick, after the divorce Mother went on to have other trash/no good men in her life but, thankfully, never another physical abuser. Mother died near destitute having given all her money to one man and then another over the years. She had to depend on me and my husband for everything she had in the end. It is a sad story that is told too often by too many other daughters and sons.
Unfortunately it happens to many of us. I was married to my 1st husband and he was a physical and emotional abuser, not to mention an alcoholic as well. I married him because I was in love with the idea of being in love and married. All for the wrong reasons. I paid for it dearly. I had to find a place in my life where I decided my kids and my life was the most important thing. That gave me the strength to get a divorce and start our live's all over again. Now they are all grown up with families of their own and I am remarried to a wonderful man who loves the Lord and me and my family! God sustained us through it all and now we are all stronger for it..GBY
