My initial reaction may be of anger and jealousy, but it was from a previous relationship. And it could be that they were just overlooked, or she was embarrassed of the pictures and just tried to hide them instead. She probably didn't want to just throw them out because she would have no way to know for sure where they ended up at or who may see them, even in the trash. If it was me, I'd take them to the shredder and just shred them--thereby both destroying them and in such a way that no one will ever see them again. You don't even have to tell her you did it. If she asks you what happened to them, you can just tell her that you shredded them. If she gets mad at you for that, then you have justification to get mad back at her.
I would be mad and ask that they be destroyed in front of me.
I won't feel good about it and would like to know why she didn't get rid of it as agreed between the two of you. It my mean nothing at all. I think it is easier for men to forget about their past relationships then what it is for woman because woman are more emotionally involved, but I will tell her that you know about the photos and that you are not happy about it and that you would just like her to explain why she kept the photos and then ask her to get rid of it. Maybe she already forgot that she still have the photos. Maybe in the beginning she needed something to hold onto and the photos was it.
I would be angry and want to know why she didn't go along with your agreement. Did she understand the agreement? Does she still carry a torch for the guy? But I would talk to her in a neutral location (like going for a walk) and explain how hurt you are.
BUT.... Were you snooping? Or did you find the photos by accident. If you are going through her stuff, do you really trust her in the first place?
BUT.... Were you snooping? Or did you find the photos by accident. If you are going through her stuff, do you really trust her in the first place?
Well if it were me I would have asked what are those pictures and then it would either result in a fight or we would in some way mimic those pictures to some extent
I would never expect my husband to throw away his past. Pictures can cause no harm, only fond memories. We each have have many pics of past loves. If you believe that a picture can change her feelings towards you, then you obviously have no trust or belief in her. Or. You must have absolute control, which will never work.