How To Treat A Stubborn Child?

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How To Treat A Stubborn Child?

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Stubborn kids? I could write a book in the subject!
The truth is that kids and adults alike, we can all be stubborn at times.

There's no quick-fix solution to dealing with a stubborn child- stubbornness is a characteristic that is built over time, and usually takes time to curb too.

How to deal with stubborn kids

The first thing you'll want to look at is your relationship with your kid.

It's important that young children look up to you and respect your opinion. You are the person responsible for teaching them everything about the world, so you need to be a good role model so that they can learn to trust that what you say is right.

In certain cases, a situation might make your child want to dig their heels in and resist your will. For example, my little one was a bit of a nightmare every time we took her to the doctors. Getting her to sit still and let the doctor examine her was such a big task that even the doctor started to lose his cool!

My child is stubborn, what can I do?

Every parent will have different suggestions for how to deal with these kind of situations, but from my experience, the two main ingredients are:

Patience
Creativity

Kids get tired of arguing after a while, and you'll need patience and perseverance to stand your ground till they cave in,
You'll also need to be a bit creative about how you go about getting them to do what you want. It's all very well telling your kid 'do this' or 'do that', but sometimes the most effective approach is to coax or cajole them into doing what you want (use bribery and deceit if necessary).

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lisa mcdonough , how to treat a stubborn child, answered

Put them in Tme Out, and ask them to think about why they acted that way.

Answer 3

It depends on the situation, the age of the child and how s/he usually behaves.
Generally, it's always best to explain why you want your child to do/not do something, and to use reason rather than force.

But this might not apply to, for instance, a two-year-old who can't yet understand why he shouldn't run out in front of the traffic. Sometimes, with very young children "because I say so" really is the best answer.

However, as children grow older, they are much better able to appreciate a reasonable argument and, although it may take time and patience, to accept the argument fully. A "stubborn" child is sometimes a child who hasn't really had the situation explained to her.

That said, almost all children (and a good many adults) have times when they just close their ears and say "no" for the sake of it. If sensible reasoning (which includes hearing your child's arguments too - they may be able to persuade YOU!) has no effect, there does come a time when you have to remember that, ultimately, you are the authority figure and, until your child has more life experience, you actually do know best.