My ex keeps contacting me? More details in comment.

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PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

He is a control freak. Just block his number and he can't text you and move on.

Yin And Yang Profile
Yin And Yang answered

You are his "safe" girl. The one he keeps dangling around. He knows that he can do whatever to you and you will still be there waiting with open arms and answering his texts. He feels significant, mighty, still in control when you answer back. He will do what he wants (including other girls) and come right back to you when he is in between girls. You are his "safe" girl. He will never be without a girl cuz he knows you will always be there. It's a pompous way of thinking. You sound like you are still into him and unfortunately it seems he is a big part of your self esteem. You think that because he keeps coming back to you that somehow you are superior to the other people in his life.... Which in a way you are cuz you are his safe girl... But that also means you are being used. Only YOU know how much YOU are willing to put up with. If this is the life you desire, the one you dreamed of as a child then so be it. But I guarantee it is not a healthy relationship. Sorry to be blunt. Good luck.

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sam smith
sam smith commented
I already left him. I told him when he texted me about my hair cut that i left him and we were finished.If he cares hell make the effort to get me back. He'll actually try and make it work. If he doesnt then its his loss because I would have done anything for him. I feel better no longer having to argue with someone everyday or try to make them talk to me and tell me how they feel. As much as i dont want it to be over I think im finally on my way to happiness. Thank you for your comment. It all helps!
Yin And Yang
Yin And Yang commented
You are very welcome. You are strong girl. ☺
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Nealious James Profile
Nealious James answered

Hello Sam! If he is contacting you, he probably is missing you or still have feelings for you! It will take him time to move on if this is the case and you will have to bear with it! If you made your decision and really want to move on, simply ignore his calls or messages. With time, he will certainly understand you!

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sam smith answered

One of my old friends came into work and visited me yesterday. I havent talked to him in forever and he told my co workers that hes my ex. Even though he isnt and we only texted for a few weeks. Somehow my actual ex found out and texted me asking who visited me at work. I didnt answer him but i dont understand what it means. Hes texted me before and told me not to cut my hair when i was in the salon about to do it. I still did it but when i told him that he wasnt a part of my life anymore and hes the one that pushed me away he didnt answer. I dont understand why he keeps contacting me for some things but the second I actually talk about things he stops answering. Im not going to answer this time because hes no longer worth it to me. I know he doesnt care enough to figure our problems out but can anyone explain why if he doesnt care enough to figure our problems out (which was really only ever him not giving me the effort i deserved as his girlfriend), why does he text me to try to find new things out about me and my new beginning?

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