Are you really a Kind person? Think first🤔. 
Do you just say yes, because others say yes, do you practice being Kind to everyone one, even online or do you pretend so people will like you? 
Do you pick and choose who to be Kind to?
Do you practice being Kind, just because? 
Finally, what does "Kindness" mean to you? 

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Stormy-Lynn Calvert Profile

I like to think of myself as a kind person. I help out my neighbors when I can. I will admit to some selfishness, though. I like having time for myself.

dragonfly forty-six Profile

Yes, I really am. I am kind to everyone. Kindness is a way of being. I'm always looking around trying to see if those near me are in need. Whether it be an errand run or just a kind word. For me it's looking through compassionate glasses and then acting on that compassion.

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

I go with this general definition: The quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.

It's my first approach, but if you violate my boundaries, I am prepared to switch to other options.  

Darik Majoren Profile
Darik Majoren answered

Jan, first off . . . I REALLY like this question.

"Are you really a Kind person? Think first " After careful consideration, I do think I am kind. It is my motivation for being Kind that I question. I like the way it "Feels" . Now it may be triggering chemicals that give me a feeling of accomplishment or a slight feeling of pride, or I like the positive attention it gives me, but it is not entirely a selfless act . . If I am to be completely honest.
"Do you just say yes, because others say yes, do you practice being Kind to everyone one, even online or do you pretend so people will like you? " - Other DO say "Yes" about my kindness, and it is reflected over an over at work and at home. Unfortunately I CAN act, but I am not the good of an actor . . . If that makes any sense, but for I am a "What you see is what you get" type of person . . . Both in person and online.

"Do you pick and choose who to be Kind to?" - Yes and No . . . I take note of the people . . . I would love to say I am blind to certain things, hygiene, obesity, ethnic stereotypes, but truth is, these all don't simply "Blend" . . . I find myself paying particular attention to my acts of kindness towards some of these determiners . . . I don't want to say it is like an act of "Charity", but I don't know how to be honest and put it into words without using that term . . . It's like I pay closer attention to the acts of kindness I put forward, and I make sure to extend kindness to them. I am more liable to hold a door open for an obese woman then a more attractive woman . . . Does that make sense?


"Are you only Kind to your ethnic group?" - No, I may be actually less kind, because we have had most things handed to us with expectations that they SHOULD be handed to us.

"Do you practice being Kind, just because?" - I would love to say "Yes", but I do get that "feeling boost" . . . Glimmer of pride maybe, and hopes of reciprocity either to me or passed on to other's watching the act of kindness . . . . For me to be doing it "Just Because" means it is some sort of conditioned response . . . I really think it through, so because of that . . . It is not merely a knee-jerk reaction.

"Finally, what does "Kindness" mean to you?" -  You put yourself out there . . You extend a courtesy, even though one need not be extended back. It makes the other person feel special, and it may make you feel good about yourself in the process (There is nothing wrong with this). It should be done with thought, and not just "Muscle Memory" . . . When it is Expected, is when it feels unnatural.


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And am amazed at the logic and reasoning you debate with. You give insight and a fresh view to Things I didn't know and now able to understand. You seem to have EXCELLENT knowledge of world views.
Darik Majoren
Darik Majoren commented
"I don't see how you can say you're a kind person when you choose to be unkind to certain people." - While I can see your point, about "choosing to be unkind" . . .
1. I have my limitations. I extend online courtesy but I also am extremely honest regarding the position I am coming from when answering questions.
2. Some answers are going to sound unkind, but truth isn't always balloons and flowers . . . reality can be hard even when offered in a "Padded: way.
3. I choose to stay away from some that take an opposite view from me on religious answers, but sometimes a debate arises. in this I am willing to be cordial up until they are not, and then I respond in kind. ("in Kind" meaning I am less . . . "Fluffy" with my responses)

Most importantly . . . if you do not agree with I take, it can SEEM unkind that I have presented it . . . often times things we do not want to hear, we take offense to, thus labeling them as unkind. Especially offered in black and white text form . . we tend to apply our own emotions or feeling of the other persons response without regard for their actual intent of we do not like the answer or information they have given.
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Agree thanks 🦁
Pepper pot Profile
Pepper pot answered

I think most people are kind because it generates a kind feeling within them. Most people don't like to feel negative emotions, they like to feel balanced. Most of what we feel or do is based on our internal and external world which is subject to change. So as to whether I am kind depends on your or my interpretion. I am selfish, but that is based on my need to survive, there are purely selfish actions and then there are refined selfish actions (those that benefit others as well as myself, by keeping emotions positive). 

Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

I'm an old curmudgeon. We're a disappearing breed. Now that Ray has left our ranks have lost their finest warrior. Thank goodness Hippy is still with us.

Janis Haskell Profile
Janis Haskell answered

To me, it means showing compassion .... Even to those who aren't ready to return the favor.  I don't always get it right, but it's my intent.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

I think I am mostly kind. I can also be a bit sarcastic, but luckily I have a lot of friends who are that way too and we get each other. I have erased a few of my answers on here and reworded them because they most likely would have been taken as me being mean. The one earlier today from the 19 year old wondering if she was pregnant was one of them. It is probably a good thing some people cannot see the eye rolls I do for some questions. With that said, I try to be kind as long as I don't feel I am being taken advantage of.

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Skip Gentry answered

Kindness to me means treating others the way I want to be treated. And yes, I think I'm kind.

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Thank you, Tiger :)
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