Is it fair that your mom starts forcing you to do something and screams at you and everyone else for her need, but when you need help she doesn't care and doesn't let anyone help you?

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Is it fair that your mom starts forcing you to do something and screams at you and everyone else for her need, but when you need help she doesn't care and doesn't let anyone help you?

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Answer 1

And the rest of the story is...? Doesn't sound fair, but to be able to give you an honest answerI would need a lot more information. Have you driven your mother to her wit's end a lot? Yelling at your children is not normally a good thing unless it is to save them from injury like "that tree is falling get out of the way!" More often than not parents use yelling as a last resort to get your attention. You say that when you want help she never helps you, is that your opinion or everyone else's. Without further information this whole thing sounds like a total lack of communication on both sides!

Answer 2

There's more to the story than what you have shared. However, generally speaking, your mother has the right to tell you / ask you to do something for her or for the family and doesn't need permission to do so. She shouldn't be yelling at you, but perhaps she can't get your attention any other way.

It would be in your best interests to obey your mom the first time she asks or tells you to do something. That would alleviate the need for her to yell at you in order to get your attention.

Once you start obeying her, without arguing with her every time, and she can see that when she tells you to do something, you do it, she might let up on people helping you when you ask.

You haven't shared all what is going on so I am just guessing. However, I believe it's a good guess. I'm pretty sure my son would have had the same story to tell during his growing up years in the house. However, once he learned that he needs to do what he's told - immediately - then I would not relent on what I wanted / needed him to do.

He would learn that I would give more when he was obedient without arguing with me every single time he was told to do something. Perhaps this is the lesson she is trying to teach you.