Aww, so sorry you've had problems with your parents. Real love is not a bad thing, it's a wonderful, amazing thing! Love should never hurt. That being said, sometimes there are things that need to be worked through, love is definitely not easy, but nothing worth having ever is.
You need to let things go and think of yourself when you find love. Like Angela said , love isn't easy, but well worth it with the right person. I've been where you're at before and been through a bad marriage and a couple of bad relationships. So, I was a little scared of ever thinking of love again. Then I met a wonderful woman and took my time getting to know her to see how she really was. It was worth the time as I love her very much and it was worth the wait to get to really know her. Takes time, but real love is out there waiting for you.
Sorry that happened with your parents and if you aren't ready to love then you don't have to. If you want to than do it.
I am so sorry you feel that way, it can be scary. Honestly, you need to get over this fear. Im sure you want to get married and start a family so you need to start dating. Obviously don't let your guard down right away, let your partner know your situation and how you feel and your parenter will work with you and help you.
You probably will get hurt more but all this pain is going to be worth it in the future because it will lead you to the one youre supposed to be with. It is simply the saying, "everything happens for a reason". At first when you start dating people dont let your guard down but once you know you have deep feelings for the person and sense they share those feelings for you and once you really make a connection with them then you should let your guard downl. It all takes time but you can do it! Best of luck!
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