I'm sorry to say this but your boyfriend has no class. Give the kid a break ! His first try. He'll learn. Next time tell this boyfriend to make it and see if it's any better. It isn't right and you should do all you can to make your son feel better. Plus give him another chance at it. It isn't easy right off to cook anything. Tell the boyfriend to take a hike and let the boy cook.
My son who is 12 decides he's going to make Mac and cheese for the first time. He is all excited about it My boyfriend comes in takes a bite and says how nasty it taste repeatedly and than leaves the room. Is this right? It broke my heart.
Aww how sweet that your child wants to do something like that for you, I think it's wonderful and his curiosity in cooking should be nurtured.....your boyfriend on the other hand, should be neutered for doing that, nothing destroys a child's self esteem faster than negativity.
Your boyfriend was very cruel and hateful. I'm sure it's not his first or second time he's been disrespect and rude to your son. Its time to protect your precious child.
Of course it's not right and you need to tell your boyfriend that, instead of telling your 12 year old child how nasty it was he should have sat there and ate every bite of it with a smile on his face, shame on your boyfriend for being such a jerk!!!
Why would you have a man in your life who would disrespect your kid this way? Are you going to do anything about it? Honesty is one thing, cruelty is another. Your man was cruel to your child. That's not okay. Before you give me that crud about "how I love my boyfriend so much" or "I've never seen him do that before" save it. I'm going to be harsh, but hopefully it will shock you. This is NOT the first time he has been cruel to your kid, and if you do not put a stop to it and choose your kid over your lover, YOU WILL REGRET THIS ACTION FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. You want a life of regret? Keep looking the other way....
Thanks everyone! I felt like I was going crazy, I've never had great self esteem so I try to encourage my kids not bring them down, he's just saying I'm blowing it out of proportion and I need help. It's so frustrating.
End of boyfriend, out the door.
I am going to be blunt, you boyfriend is a jerk. (Actually I would like to use another word, but then my comment would be removed.) He needs to apologize to your son. He needs to grow up, and learn to give constructive criticism to help your son learn. (Like go over the steps and find out where there was an error.) Putting him down does nothing but hurt your son and show that your boyfriend is an immature creep. If your boyfriend can't do that, the it is time for hi to go.
That was totally inconsiderate to your son AND to you. He needs to man up and learn how to deal with a child.
My kids made the ugliest Christmas decorations when they were little. They're all in their 30's and 40's now and I still hang up the ugly decorations. Praising children for a job well done, even if it tastes bad or is ugly, is just the right thing to do.
That was so rude of your boyfriend! I would be totaling upset with him! He has no respect for you or your son. I would tell him to hit the road!
Holly, you deserve better, and so does your son. Get rid of the creep. (The boyfriend, not the son.)
Right? No, it is not right .. Not even remotely 'right' .. What it is .. Is beyond being non supportive .. More like, Passive aggressive. This so called boyfriend just emotional slapped your son right across the face .. His words were not just critical .. They were destructive and hurled at your son for no other reason but to to hurt and destroy what he , as such a young child, was struggling to accomplish. That is not right on many levels .. As a matter of fact to the point where if I was you, I would not be heartbroken .. Hell no ! .. Not THIS mamma bear .. I would be absolutely furious! I would not want to share my time nor my family with such a cold hearted bully.
It's way far from right, but let's not impute evil intent to him just yet.
I'm guessing he's never had kids that age and has never thought much about how very important is the building of and continual protecting of anyone's self esteem---and especially that of a child.
You can easily snatch victory from the jaws of defeat. Tell him you don't know why your friend didn't like it. Suggest you both make it again---just observe more than assist---and tell your boyfriend not to react emotionally one way or another---but find something positive to say to your son.
Your son will have a positive experience this time and he will also learn that if he did make an error, that being "wrong" is not something to fear, not should it "disincentivize" him in the future.
And if he did not make a "mistake," he will have learned that adults are not necessarily perfect either.
As others have stated, he's being a jerk and he compounded the problem by not admitting that he was being a jerk.
I know you have a child with him. My answer to you is SO WHAT.
Sorry if that's too blunt. However, your children are watching what you do and say in this situation. They need to know that you will be their defender when appropriate. If your son was 5 and burned up the stove when he cooked something, then obviously there should be parental correction - not humiliation - for the child.
If he cannot see that being cruel and hurting someone's feelings when they made an effort to cook something, or help someone, or a myriad of other things, then what value are they adding to your household?
Your boyfriend is a grown man. He can be booted out of the household and be able to survive just fine. Your children cannot. Be their defender, not a victim.