Can Internet communities like Ask.com and Blurtit.com, can they ever replace the small-town farming-type communities that we are now losing so quickly?

And we are paying such a high price, as people no longer find it easy to be part of a close-knit group, and so life becomes much more difficult...

What is the potential of the Internet; can we form authentic communities of the kind that have nurtured humankind for so long?

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Rooster Cogburn , Rooster Cogburn, answered

They can help but never replace face to face human interaction. I'm afraid those good old days are gone Virginia. It'll never be the same again. I wish it was and it still is in different parts of the country. Up where my youngest son lives near Medicine Bow Wyoming, it's still a close knit community and he loves it there. These can be formed on the Internet but as I have recently found? It's just cyber space and no actual physical being. It'll never replace those old close knit communities. It's a shame but true.

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Thank you Rooster, I was hoping everybody would say "oh yes this will work!"
But the points are very valid - and I could even feel my own heart warm as you described your son's home in Wyoming...
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Ancient Hippy answered

Social interaction has slowly been going the electronic route. The warmth of group friendships and interactions is slowly becoming a thing of the past. Sure, we can have virtual parties and share virtual pizza on Blurtit and have a good time doing it but it doesn't take the place of actually sharing a table with other humans.

Individualism is being nurtured by ear buds, iPads and cell phones while electronic entertainment is geared toward the individual to enjoy on their little screens while alone. I don't find fault in the young generation for this, it's how they were raised. Kids don't roam the neighborhood looking for friends as we did in the "old days", for fear of abduction, harm, etc.

I wouldn't ponder a guess at what the world and it's citizens are heading towards, socially, in the future but I sure don't think they'll be sitting on cracker barrels around a potbellied stove discussing life.

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
AH, I was hoping everybody would say "Oh yes!"
But no one has at least so far...and yes, even if the kids wanted to put down the iPad and go look for friends, we couldn't really allow them as in previous generations...thank you.
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Didge Doo answered

The friendships on a site like this are very real; rather like those we made with pen pals when snail mail was the way to go.

Yes, we are a community. Yes, we can give each other much support. But no, we cannot give somebody a hug when they need it.

In a way, Internet communities can be more intimate than physical ones. Because of our relative anonymity we can share thoughts and ask for help about things we would NOT discuss with our neighbours.

Blurtit (like Ask before it) has created such an opportunity. It takes skillful moderation to keep the site from self-destructing, but the fact that we do interact so easily is a tribute to the high standard of moderation.

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Dozy, many valid points here, I am quite taken by your observation of the potential for Internet communities to be, in a way, more intimate than physical ones...
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I grew up in the 1940s, 6 miles from the Sydney Harbour Bridge, so I'm a city boy, yet few people had cars and even fewer had telephones. So everybody walked and everybody knew each other. We were a community. Neighbours. I think that has gone with the era and we've become more distant from each other. Not like the usual stereotype of a New Yorker, perhaps, but the distance and the isolation are there.
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Maurice Korvo answered

I think community interaction is possible using a computer. When I started using BBS's (bulletin board services) back in the 80's we all met one night a week for coffee or in a bar (all were of legal age). This brought us closer together. In small countries, where people speak the same language, it would be possible to meet occasionally, but English speaking areas are so widely dispersed that we will have to wait for cheap long distance transportation before we will achieve this.  Long time coming I fear.

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
This kind of opportunity might be an example of how Internet could actually nurture community, and what I am seeing from your answer is that internet supports and supplements the in-person connections? Which are so needed for us?
Maurice Korvo
Maurice Korvo commented
Yes, it is getting there. Unfortunately for us, we are a bunch that has nothing in common but a desire to help or be helped with problems. And possibly learn things. Guess we could all go take a college course and meet there. LOL
Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Hmmm...I am wondering...maybe it is one of the challenges of our time, to develop Internet uses in wholesome ways...
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otis campbell answered

I drove around my neighborhood with a friend this past summer looking for kids playing singing u dont see any of that. The kids are on the computer talking to people all over the world. Things are changing i dont like it. But it must change things move on for the better

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
And when they become adults, who did not play and sing as children...Otis that is a concern...
I was so delighted at this idea of Internet communities...these answers are a wake-up call...
otis campbell
otis campbell commented
Its a good bad relationship when i was a kid everyone got together and played during summer time now their on their computer so now they find friends all across the state or world
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Matt Radiance answered

Internet is potentially strong to create such an atmosphere. I believe the form of authentic close-knit group with internet is possible. However, it is form in a different perspective, therefore many people would disagree and believe that any type of communication filtered by internet is unreliable and unacceptable. The concept of "real" and "virtual" hunts  down most of the people. So the internet has the potential but the people do not have the capacity to go on with it. Although the new generation seem to cope with it. It's not as successful as we could expect. Many trouble and failures throughout the communication suffered the young people and furthermore even adults. It is highly depends of how people treat it. How they understand and face the angles of internet and it's communication.

Personally i have had this amazing experience interacting with people around the world and discovering good friends which we share all kind of moments together and helping each other as much as we can.

The most flaw of internet is the unsafe factor which happens to be a flaw of life! Because life is unsafe. But i assume the "virtual" aspect of internet makes it more unpleasant and insecure to people. But internet has this ability to help you to find people who knows the answer of your problem. Who shares the same experience. Who can understand you and those who share the same thoughts or favorites. And be a help through many difficult times.

If people learn how to handle themselves in internet. How to take the steps. How to behave and how and when to establish trust. How start to know someone. Get experienced of recognizing between fakes and reals. And set themselves boundaries and certain principles to filter people by them. Internet is an amazing tool have such close-knit group.

Internet can be a tremendous communication environment if THIS does not happen either.


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PJ Stein answered

I live in a small town in a county that is very active in helping. I am so glad to be here. While I enjoy my internet friendships, there is nothing like seeing people who come together to help their neighbors. The town I live in organized a group to go over to my old hometown to clear the mess behind after the hurricane. A tree had fallen and killed a woman and her live-in boyfriend couldn't bring himself to deal with cutting up the tree and removing the debris. About 20 from my new town got together. The local diner fed the group for free before they went and Dunkin Donuts donated coffee, tea, and donuts for them to take with them.

There is also a couple who live in my hometown who are dealing with a very sick pup. Their story is actually gone viral. Here is a link to a video about them.

http://www.news965.com/videos/news/man-makes-wagon-for-dog-with-cancer/vDrNLC/

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
That video brought my tears, Gator Blu.

Well I was hoping for answers that would say yes, Internet communities can do it...with these answers, a bit of realism hits... nothing can ever really replace person to person...
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Pepper pot answered

As much as internet communities can feel a void, especially if that person does not live in a closenit community, see's friends or relatives very often, or is housebound, it can never replace social interactions that are face to face. Humans interactions are mostly non verbal which gets missed online, also in a community you cannot make each other a cup of tea, see a warm smile and feel a hug. My neighbour is able to knock on my door if her TV stops working. I can knock on her's if I need practical help. We can do shopping for one another if one of us is unwell. 

I sat through cancer with one of my neighbours and held his hand and just talked so he could hear a familiar voice and not be alone. 

In fact I wonder if the ever increasing interaction with social media could make the world a more hostile, lonely place as people dive into their virtual worlds while forsaking the real one. I'm not saying that we are not real, what I am saying is that it should never replace one to one interaction. Imagine if the internet and telephone services went down, we would have to go back to mixing in our communities, you would see children out in the street instead of gaming or updating their facebook profile and judging their self esteem by how many followers they've got.

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Pepper pot
Pepper pot commented
I suffer chronic pain, but along with local support groups there are online communities with great advice :)
Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Oh! I am so sorry Dear Pepper Pot.
Pepper pot
Pepper pot commented
Thank you, I've lived with it for 12 years. It is what it is, you make the best of things :)

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