How to approach someone and ask if they want to hang out? I'm very socially awkward lmao rip.

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Lilly Gray Profile
Lilly Gray answered

Hey!! Okay, I can relate on a spiritual level.

Righto. So, try and talk to her as much as you can. Say hi in the hallways etc as often as you can, so she knows that you're interested in more contact with her. Maybe when you're feeling confident enough just go up to her and say something along the lines of 'Hey! So there's this really cool horror movie that's just come out/I want to watch, I thought maybe you could come over and we could watch it together?' Except that sounds  a bit dorky. But something like that!! If you reach out and put yourself out there, she's likely to grab ahold, if you get what I mean. Making relationships is all about putting yourself out there, open to being rejected entirely. Which I know, trust me I know, is so hard sometimes. Possibly before inviting her over to your house, cos some people see that as pretty ~intimate~ for a friendship that's only starting out, invite her out for a pizza or a coffee (IDK WHAT PEOPLE DO AFTER SCHOOL OK) after school and get to know her better. But generally just like, if you see her then say hi. She'll get the message  that you want to be her friend and respond. Ask for her number if you don't have it? It's going to take a bit of time, it'll be gradual, but I'm sure it'd work if you're slow and steady with it!!! Good luck!!

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Darik Majoren answered

Establish a typical conversation. Base it on an observation like "Hey, I see your reading [Name of Book], is it any good?" Or, "What are you listening to? Mind if I hear a little bit?" . . . Maybe you establish a commonality between certain likes . . . Music artist, author, at least genre of either . . . This is called establishing a rapport. It finds commonalities that can then branch off into conversation. If you establish enough rapport that means you have a lot in common, and once you pick up on the body and facial gestures associated with being "Open" you can suggest you hang out. You can even preface it to enjoying one of the commonalities together.

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Lily Watson
Lily Watson commented
Ahhh! thank you!
Darik Majoren
Darik Majoren commented
I honestly think it's harder for younger people today. The link to our mobile devices makes us more solitary even though we could be carrying on several conversations over multiple platforms of social media. My fear is that we lose those much needed social interactions which teach us Body Language and facial gestures . . . it was key to our evolution to language.
Lily Watson
Lily Watson commented
I agree. Even though I'm young myself, all you see is everyone with their phones and devices in their faces. And it's sad in school how they can't even put their phone down for one lesson... Welp, I kinda laugh because in the end, they most likely get bad grades😂

But 100%. It is getting harder to be able to face someone and just have a simple conversation with them, as they would rather be texting. It is so much easier to just pull out our phones and text a "hey" when it might be harder irl.

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