What's the hardest conversation that you've had to have with your children to date?

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What's the hardest conversation that you've had to have with your children to date?

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Answer 1

I had to have the suicide conversation with my children as of late. They are 22 and 26. The topic is rampant at this time. Has not helped that Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington have both chosen to end their lives. Both groups that they were in meant quite a lot to my kids. They say their music got them through some tough times.

Our conversation ended with me saying that life is very hard, but that we get up every day and do our best to get through the day. We as a family are in this thing TOGETHER. No matter what. I'll be here to listen, nothing is so impossible that we can't make it through. So sad that these conversations must take place. Parenting doesn't end when they become adults.

Answer 2

Ancient Hippy answered

Sitting them down and having a conversation about the reality of their mom's illness and the probable outcome.

Answer 3

When we had to put down our "Macey" girl.

She had a tumor on her vertebrae that would have just grown back if we had it removed . . . That reduced the whole family to crying mess.

I'm tearing up just writing about it.

Answer 4

Sitting down with my 8 year old son explaining why and how his mom passed away and why the doctors could not fix her.

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Toni Pauze answered

Explaining to a 4 year old why Mom is sick! She had leukemia.

Answer 6

When my son was 15, a classmate of his died suddenly. This was the kind of kid everyone wanted to be around. He had a wonderful sense of humor, lit up a room when he entered, smart, had a ton of friends.

His parents were divorced and he was spending the night with his dad. He was snugged up in bed, texting and calling his friends, as per usual. What was unusual was that he had been "encouraged" by his friends to raid his mom's medicine cabinet and experiment with what he found.

He texted his friends, telling them he didn't feel good. They told him he was okay - he couldn't OD on prescription meds. No one thought anything of it when he didn't respond to their texts. His father went to wake him up the next morning and he had died during the night.

The hardest talk was trying to explain his behavior to my son and the fact that you actually CAN overdose and die from prescription meds when you misuse them. So sad a 15 year old kid has to die because he wanted to try something mom or dad had in their medicine cabinet.