How should a White European woman treat her biracial(black american/white european) stepchild in public with regards to correction to attract the least amount of scrutiny from blacks if the child loudly denounces that you are not her real mother?

Let's take race out of the equation and just deal with a child who's being disrespectful to an adult in public. Any child I have under my protection will also be privy to discipline should the need arise. I would not hesitate to correct my child when that child is being disrespectful and rude.

And yes, I do have step-children and have disciplined them in public. And yes, those children were of a different race than I was. I won't hesitate to point out that rudeness and being disrespectful crosses all racial lines.

Race has nothing to do with manners and discipline. Be the adult here and teach this child.

If the child's father is present then he needs to get involved. This child clearly is upset and hurting about SOMETHING bigger then pitching a fit in public. Children do not know how to express their feelings in an adult way until they are TAUGHT! Children take work! YOU sound like you have a problem with this child being your mans EX's! You sound bitter and like maybe you should not date a man with kids little miss "white European, black american" blah blah blah! YOU are the one acting like you got the problem with race! This is an innocent CHILD who did not ask to be placed in the middle of your love triangle!

By the way, to answer your bigoted question..... Take the child to the restroom to talk to her/discipline her if you don't want other "black people" looking at you "discipline" your boyfriends child!

How you discipline her is something you need to speak to her father about. Regardless of race, people are going to look if she shouts out that your not her mother, but you still need to learn how to deal with her.  All mums, aunts, grandmothers have to deal with children throwing tantrums in public, welcome to the club.

When the child says, "You're not my Mother"! ......simply say "You're right, but I love you as if I were" and treat them like you would, if you would have given birth to them yourself.

Anonymous question. Lazily and badly written.

Let me ask you this. If you are in public with the child and were moved to do so, would you hesitate to hold the hand of or show affection to the child? Chances are you would not care if anyone approved of you embracing or kissing the child, but would do so anyway, because you genuinely care for the child regardless of skin color. Likewise if you find the child's behavior to be unacceptable and are the adult in charge of the child at the moment then you should not hesitate to correct the child.