i need help ,most women i have flirted with feel angry and i dont understand why?

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Ancient Hippy Profile
Ancient Hippy answered

Have you looked into entering the Priesthood?

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Pretty little things. Something like a hedgehog.

When I was writing my Tall Tales column the editor wanted me to use names that couldn't be confused with any of his readers, so I had a set of more-or-less regular characters who popped up from time to time.

Sebastian Stonesthrow was rarely far from the action; Peter Proboscis advised people not to get their noses out of joint; Jeannie Saypar (je ne sais pas) didn't know anything and was, in act, the woman tho thought that osmosis was the guy who led the Israelites out of Egypt); Colonel MacAdamia was a macadamia kernel; and Santo Peccadillo was a guy you'd really have liked. He wanted to stock garden fishponds with piranha so that they could defend themselves against marauding cats.

The ed said that after that one they received lots of complaints (including one full A4 page) from cat-lovers who wanted to know what kind of anti-kitty fool wanted to do such a thing. He asked in an end-of-year round-up, "Where were all the goldfish lovers?"
Ray  Dart
Ray Dart commented
One of the contributors to my (now defunct) website was Colonel Moade-Trapp - a bit of an "in joke" for Unix/Linux nerds (as I once was......
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I'd have missed that one, too.

I once defined a list of cycling terms and when I came to "fishtail" (it's a whole story on its own) I added, '"No Penelope, that's not a bicycle part."

Every feminist who subscribed to the magazine contacted the editor and complained but, in fact, Penelope was a very intelligent friend who was a regular reader and who very well understood what I was talking about. After that I made sure my in jokes were politically correct.
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falcon max answered

im much of a kind person ,in the past i have flirted with much girls since ive been nice to them ,they all have been falling in love with me and after that most of them always say they didn't wanted to fall in love with me at all ,some where angry and told me they where going to file a complaint on me because they fell some kind of harassment or being accused.  Deep inside i feel disappointed because im just being nice with them and they take things to another level that does not make sense. I would never like to go to jail for this i need an advice,i have been traumatized for this most of my life for this and i need help

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
This actually comes across as a bit creepy. Judging by your other questions you have a problem with relating to people.

Several of them have been about "flirting" (and I suspect that means something to you than it does to the rest of us) which appears to have earned you a caution from police, at least once.

Perhaps you should consider talking to a therapist to see if there's something basic you fail to understand.
Ray  Dart
Ray Dart commented
OK, firstly, please rewrite that with punctuation so that we can really understand what you are trying to say.
Secondly, if multiple people are threatening to "file complaints" then your approach is seriously bad.
Thirdly, and most importantly, if you think you can fix relationships by asking questions on sites like this, you need a bit of a wake up.
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If they go so far as to threaten to file a complaint, perhaps you are being to intense with the flirting or overtly sexual with them. You might want to study up on detecting when girls are feeling uncomfortable and being able to detect when they don't respond to well towards some of your advances. They like some types of flirting, but not others, and really which ones they do or don't like depend on the girl. In general, it is considered very rude to touch them inappropriately if you are not already in a relationship with them and/or in public. For example, grabbing a girl's ass is seen as extremely creepy. I'm not saying you do that, but since you seem to not know what is causing it, I'm just throwing out some ideas out. Touching girls (or people in general) even not sexually can also be seen as off-putting. Really, how often to touch other people in conversation depends on the culture. For example, in Spain or Italy it's common to casually touch other people during conversation, but you don't touch people at all during conversation in places like Germany or Finland. If you touch them too often, it will seem creepy even if you're doing it in a non-sexual way. Touching another person more often than normal could be a good way of flirting, but make sure to not do it excessively. It's also creepy to stand too close to someone when talking, or to talk them in a way that they are cornered, as in a girl's leaning against a corner and you're on the outside of it. It seems almost a bit frightening even if that's not your intention. Another way you could appear too creepy from being too sexual is the nature of compliments you could give her. "You look really pretty today" is fine, but saying something like "nice t*ts" is extremely creepy and rude.

Another point is to not be too intense. You shouldn't go say something too far too soon. Saying something like "You are the love of my life. I wake up every morning thinking of you, and I fall asleep thinking of you" if you aren't in a long-term relationship is taking it too far and will make her feel uncomfortable. "I dream of you every night" is also weird. Anything like that is considered odd and will make you look possibly crazy or unstable.

You could also appear creepy if the only interaction you have with the girl you're flirting with is flirting. Flirting occasionally is good, but if you never just have casual conversations it will make her feel tired of you.

Also, never catcall. "Flirting" with a random woman you don't know is creepy, especially if done from your car. It won't get you anywhere, they won't appreciate it, and you'll look like a creep.

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