What you have is not a clear understanding of yourself. The only people you need to care about what they think are your family and loved ones, and your employer. And sometimes even your family is questionable. Some people have families that are toxic, and therefore their opinions really don't matter. Wasting time, energy, and emotions worrying about what people who have no bearing on your life, is just that. A waste.
What you need to do is find a way to clear your mind of the clutter before trying to sleep. Turn off all electronics at least 30 minutes before bed, and if you can swing it and hour before. Then do something you find relaxing before bed. Some people read, others knit, and some simply meditate. You need to find what works for you.
I say all this from experience.
