I tell strangers I love them but they take it the wrong way like as in marriage love when I don't care for that stuff. I'm only 17. What should I do about this ? I tried to ignore them but that didn't work.

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Soul Fly Profile
Soul Fly answered

Instead of using the word love, replace it with another word like admire, adore, cherish, fancy, fond of, or treasure .

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Walt O'Reagun
Walt O'Reagun commented
Personally ... I wouldn't say any of those to strangers, either.

I mean, they're strangers ... someone you don't know, and they don't know you.
Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

You may have Christian love for your fellow mankind, but saying so to complete strangers will have people looking at you like you have lost your mind.

Exhibit the love that you have for everyone by being kind, being helpful when you can, doing random acts of kindness without telling. Feel it in your heart but keep the words for someone very special. It holds no meaning if you are constantly telling everyone around you that you love them. Make it mean something.

Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

Stop telling strangers that

Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered
Get out of the habit of saying nice things to strangers, it always sounds phoney. Above all, NEVER tell a stranger that you love them; that is most definitely off-putting and practically guaranteed to make them avoid you.
Ally Gh Profile
Ally Gh answered

I think when you say it in a Christian way it shows you do not know Christianity at all. I mean you do not know religions at all. Religion (any religion) does not provide love, all it gives is hatred and grudge. You are still way too young and you will see what I say when you read more about religion. So my advice would be: Do not do it. There is no such thing as Christian love. Replace the words with actions and show people how much you love them. Words can be misleading.

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Ally Gh
Ally Gh commented
Dear Walter and Tom:
It is so strange the way you interprete the verses I just mentioned! The verses I quoted are the words of Jesus! Not the enemy of jesus who is very violent! Jesus says: And the brother shall deliver up the brother to death, and the father the child: and the children shall rise up against their parents, and cause them to be put to death.
Or this is jesus who says:
Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword.
These are the words of jesus! It is not some story book and jesus is not the bad guy of the book! This is your holybook and Jesus is your Prophet! When these words are said by prophet then I can say he is delivering a violent message.
You never talk about the verses I quote. You didn't even know they existed. Then you claim you understand better
Tom  Jackson
Tom Jackson commented
@Ally Gh

My first elective course 50 years ago was a semester studying the Pentateuch.

I said that my problem is with the assumptions you make, not your logic.

Well, quod erat demonstrandum

You thought (assumed) that I am unfamiliar with the Bible.

You obviously do not have the qualifications to warrant my continuing a discussion with you on these topics.

Consider yourself "shrouded." (See the movie The Paper Chase for relevant line by John Houseman.)
Ally Gh
Ally Gh commented
@ Walter: I also agree with you on the fact that what I quoted was nonesense;-)
If you read what I quoted and get love! Then you have serious comprehension problems. Sorry but I do not want to waste time on someone who reads this : "Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword.
(Exact words of Jesus) and interprets it as nonviolent.
I am sorry but the truth is bitter. I understand if you do not wanna see it.
Good day to you sir
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered

Why on earth are you telling strangers you love them?! Is it really any wonder they think you're weird?

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

In one of your comments you say that you love them in a Christian way and you don't know why they don't understand that is what you mean.

Here's three definitions of "love" from the internet:

(1):  Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child>

(2):  Attraction based on sexual desire :  Affection and tenderness felt by lovers (and)

3): Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

When people hear the word love without a specific context, the second definition is what people are conditioned to think about first.

So what you mean when you say you "love" a stranger, #3 is just not the first thing a stranger thinks you are saying---which makes them think you are weird.

Communication requires a sender and a receiver.  The message you are sending is ambiguous (because of our culture) and the receiver doesn't associate with what you actually intend to communicate.

Those are the facts.  You can decide what to do from there.

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PJ Stein answered

As you said these people are strangers. They do not know you mean it in a Christian sense. And many people are not Christians and do not want your religion thrust upon them. Instead of saying you love them, (which franly will come off as insincere if said too often) show them. Show them kindness and respect. If you know it bothers people, yet continue to do so, you are not showing any kind of love, kindenss, or respect. You are ignoring their feelings all together.

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Akhila Ramesh answered

It might not be socially appropriate to tell random strangers that you love them. That's probably why they find it a little weird.

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