Is it true that once you're "friend zoned" then there's no way for it to go further?

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dragonfly forty-six Profile

I think it depends on the person. For me personally once I friend zoned someone that was it. I could usually tell within the first 5 minutes which category a gentleman would be in. For me if there is no chemistry there is no relationship. I could always tell that immediately.

Matt Radiance Profile
Matt Radiance answered

(Sorry for not giving you a total direct answer but just need to express myself to makes you clear about this friendzone thing!)

I always find the word "Friendzoned" a very inappropriate stage. It's something out of the sense!

I'm so agree with some of the statements here! If you count it almost every "friendzone" express comes from males! Why some male always need to look into something else when you open up a friendship with a female ? Some self control maybe ?

In my point of view, you call someone "Friendzoned" when you were looking so hard like hungry and thirsty to get in further relation and sexual attractiveness with them. And when you get disappointed. People become like "aww i've been friendzoned!" well there's no friendzoned! You should've not cross the line from the first place! That's it,

If you just truly fell in love with someone who have been your friend, or you starting to feel something and you're not sure! It's a confused feeling and you're looking for a chance to see if it can be developed. Then you can politely express it and talk about it with your friend with maturity. So you'll see if she feels the same or if she's willing to give it a chance to try it's development. Now, if she tells you she just want to be friends, means she denied your request and she's not feeling the same as you. She haven't created any zone or something. You've been friends and you stay friends.she doesn't owe you her feelings!  And if you can't control your feelings, you need stay away from her. But if you can, then happily stay friends.

In the other hand, the feelings might change, she might feel otherwise later but the way you expressing it with all due respect it's inappropriate in my point of view.

Maybe her ideas change later, but you shouldn't act like a hunter who's waiting for the first bite of the bate to hunt it's target! You can't do that to her! And if you try to be that way, you'll surely have problem with her in a near future anyway!

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DDX Project answered

If someone doesn't want to date you. Get over it. Nobody owes you anything. If you want to be friends, then be their friend. If you want more, do something that gets their attention. Otherwise stop.

SuperFly Original Profile

I would ask the friend.

Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

NO, NO. NO.  The only place that the "friend zone" exists us in the mind of someone who believes that because they have feelings for someone, that persons owes those sane kind of feelings returned.  No one owes you their feelings just because you want them!!!

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Walt O'Reagun answered

Personally ... I always went for the "friend zone" first. 

If she's someone I can't be friends with - why would I want to pursue a deeper relationship?!?

If I can be friends with her ... Then I can get to know her better and decide if I want to pursue a deeper relationship, or just stay friends.

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