I need my husband to be respectful. He does not try to understand how I think. He makes me feel bad when I try to discuss it with him. I want this marriage to work but how can you live with someone who does not respect your feelings?

So, did he display this lack of respect while you guys were dating? If so, did that not send alarm bells ringing with you?

If this just evolved during the marriage, then I'm curious as to why he's suddenly being disrespectful.

The way that women think is completely different than how a man thinks. So there will be disconnects that you just have to work through.  Men probably don't understand why women need to have 50 pair of shoes in their closets - women probably don't understand why men (generally speaking) don't do chores around the house until you tell them what to do.

All you can do is to express your feelings to him. "Honey, when you don't call to let me know that you're going to be working late, I feel as if you don't care about me. I've prepared dinner for us and you didn't show up. I didn't know where you were. In the future, could you call / text me to let me know you're going to be late?"

Only you can decide if there is more negative going on in your marriage than positive. You must have been in love with him when you married him. Good luck.