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I have a boyfriend. He's busy with stuff in school and we rarely see each other. I felt sad. Then, there's this guy who was flirting. I fell for him. But he seemed to just flirt. After I confessed, he avoided me. What will I do? I'm puzzled.

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Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

As a guy who flirted a LOT ... Just because someone flirts with you, doesn't mean they want a relationship.  They may just enjoy the happiness it gives others, or enjoy the "back and forth" play. 

*I* did it because I enjoyed the intellectual challenge of trying to "one up" the girls I flirted with, who flirted back (knowing I wasn't interested in a relationship).

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

Puzzled about what exactly?  And who did you 'confess' to .. Did you confess to the other boy about having a boyfriend .. Or did you confess that you are attracted to someone else to your boyfriend.

Make no mistake .. Being in a relationship takes a lot of conviction.  Feeling neglected is no excuse for 'acting on' your attraction to other guys.  If you want a more attentive boyfriend, then break up with this one, and move on.  Perhaps you are just not ready for a relationship or you and your current boyfriend are just not a good match.

Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

Hey, heads-up! YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND! If you want to flirt and carry on with other guys, do your boyfriend a favor and break up with him.

You are giving the other guy mixed messages - yes you have a boyfriend / no you don't really like him. The guy you're flirting with doesn't want to be involved in causing a break-up, so he stopped flirting with you.

If you want to be free to "play the field", then you don't need to have a boyfriend while you're doing this. It's disrespectful and immature.

Decide what you want to do and then take action.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

You confessed to the guy flirting with you? Did you ever think he was flirting with you because you were a "safe flirt"? Some people like flirting with people who are in relationships because the know they nothing will develop from it. I am married and I have certain married guy friends that i flirt with. We flirt for the fun of it. Both of us know there is a line you never cross.

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