Dump him. If I had a boyfriend and he cheated on me I would dump him. I don't want to be mean it's just he doesn't care any more but if you love try to get him to stop. I hope this wasn't a mean post...
Actually I can't leave him..my love is true..I know he is cheating me..I can't hurt him. I just want him to realize his mistake..he is a good guy?
In what world is a cheater .. Who knows he's cheating, and continues to enter into a selfish dastardly activity on a regular basis... Considered 'a good guy'? Making a conscious decision to cheat with multiple partners repeatedly or have an affair is not a 'mistake' or an 'crime of passion'... It is a deliberate act .. Knowing full well the damage and hurt it can inflict.
Sounds to me like your logic is flawed, and you are blinded by your own denial. I'm thinking he already knows cheating is wrong .. and that you love him .. yet he chooses to push it all aside. He is not willing to remain faithful and protect your love .. instead he is 'taking his chances' and is willing to gamble your love. That would suggest what HE feels for YOU... is NOT love. YOUR love, at this point is irrelevant...and he has made it so.
His treating you 'nice', and your loving him .. Does not make him a 'good guy' .. His beliefs, his actions, his behaviour are a reflection of whether or not he is a good guy .. NOT HIS WORDS. By the sounds of it, you are deep in denial, and considering he is repeatedly cheating , his beliefs, actions and behaviour is an indication that he is NOT a 'good guy'.
This is all about 'choices' .. He is making his, and you are making yours.
The love you feel, is probably love for someone you want him to be .. not who he actually 'is' as an individual. Leaving him or not leaving him is your choice. Either you accept who he (as an individual) and tolerate and endure his extra curricular 'activities' OR you refuse to tolerate it and 1) give an ultimatum and he stops, you forgive his behavior and you live happily ever after or 2) he doesn't stop, and you leave him.
This sounds more like a fantasy than love. You are creating a "good guy" in your head from wishful thinking .... It's time to pick up your self respect and find a genuine person. They really do exist, but don't rush it.
