What do you do when staying is killing you, but losing them will kill you also?

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John Doe answered

I'm going to assume that you're speaking of a relationship....sometimes people, given the chance, will suck the life out of you....You end up being a shell of the person you really are. So yes, staying in that type of relationship is killing you in a sense. It is difficult to leave what has been "normal" for you, that being said, there is so much more to be gained, life is meant to live, not sit idly by and watch.

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Sarah Lewis answered

Ask yourself if the relationship is harming you in anyway.  Are you hurt, ashamed, neglected, or giving up your goals and dreams?  If so, it is bad for you, and you should gracefully leave and honor the lesson learned. Be brave.

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Arthur Wright , Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Psychology, answered

First, you really wont die here as everyone out here has been there at one time or another, but this is when you really have to be honest to yourself and figure out whether you're truly better off with or without this other person and then move on accordingly. 

This is your life and it doesn't come with a manual so we just have to think things thru and then decide what's best for us. The pain will eventually go away and you'll be able to put this in the past but learn from this and move on.  Good luck and Merry Christmas.

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