Should I tell this actor guy I'm friends with that I find him attractive even tho I'm married (and that's mostly in "name only" these days, and it's way complicated)? He's a sweetheart, but I'm afraid I'll scare him off. Should I just stay silent?

When you say you are "friends" with this actor, do you mean real friends as in going out, talking on the phone etc. Or is it more along the lines of him replying to your tweets occasionally?

I ask because there is a world of difference between the two. If he is famous and you don't know him personally, then I would stay silent. The fact that you are contacting him probably already tells him that you find him attractive but, realistically, you are probably one of many that feel that way.

If you do know him, does he know you are married? It might be worth flirting a little and trying to establish whether the attraction is mutual. If he is someone you can talk to easily, you could casually mention that your marriage isn't great, just in case he is holding back because of that.

I'm wondering though, whether you are pinning your hopes on this guy because you lack a close relationship with your husband. Do you think you are reaching out for something you think you can't have on purpose?

I know it's not all that easy, but maybe it is time to have a good long think about what you really want. If your marriage is totally dead, it may be time to leave and start building a new life on your own. Then you can see clearly what it is that you need in your future - whether it is your actor friend, another man or just independence.

I hope things work out for you, if you do decide to give it a go with your friend, let me know how you get on.