Scared?
Then don't have sex because you are not ready.
Hi I'm a 12 year old boy and my bf is 14. We're bi. And we want to have sex but I'm scared and don't know what to do. What should I do?
Woah! Not cool. You guys are way too young for sex. I dunno what the law is like where you live, but most places it is downright illegal to have sex at that age. Just wait.
At 12 years old you should not be thinking of having sex with anybody I have to think the 14 year old boyfriend is pressuring you to do this. It is against the law and you could both end up in trouble. It's against the law for a reason and that's because you're still a child and not ready to make these decisions yet. Please listen to the advice you've got here because you're going to get really messed up if you give in to this.
I mean, if you wnat to then you want to but you should probably be alone together and in a goooood spot. Closets work well (kay, maybe not, but you gotta admit nobody will see you)
If you are scared then you are not ready.
At least one of the two of you have the sense to have condoms and know how to safely use them...I hope.
Well...of course you are scared and you should be. Your bf should even be more afraid. Him getting caught having sex with you can get him arrested and ending up on a sexual predator list. You are entirely too young to be making such a decision. Not to mention the risks. There are STDs. If you should get one then you hace to tell someone so you can get treated. You are not even a teenager yet. You cannot get medical attention without a parent or guardian. You need to wait.
This was posted in 2013, so he’s 16 now and I hope he didn’t go through with it.
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You probably feel that your boyfriend really loves you, and maybe you really love him. And you might also feel like, seeing everything on TV and in romance stories, that sex is the official seal of a relationship. Reread that and think about it. It’s not. At a young age, it is not at all necessary, to have a good relationship. What you read and see applies to adults only, and not even all adults at that point. And know that, a good person would NEVER pressure you to do anything you are hesitant to do. They would NEVER rush you.
But for any people in need of a reference, like Kass said:
Don’t do it.
1. You’re 12, no matter how much you feel you’re ready, if you’re scared ^ then no, you’re really not ready. There’s no point in it if you’re not enjoying it.
2. You’re 12. It’s illegal. That’s the age where you suddenly grow up. So there’s a big difference in the mindset of a 14 y/o compared to a 12. Know that this is something you can’t sense.
3. Std risk. AIDS. We do not want AIDS, okay. Or gential warts.
4. Other kids are unpredictable, and very good liars. Heck, even adults are. An adult might see the signs. As a kid, you don’t have enough experience to sense if he has ulterior motives.
Actual precautions (since abstinence fails):
1. Condoms on both partners (except if with girl. Then one or the other). NEVER two condoms on one partner (it will break). Helps with std prevention, but cannot 100% prevent it. It probably won’t feel as good, but genital warts and 18 years of being trapped by an infant doesn’t feel any better.
2. Safe place. No sneaking around in the park, or a fitting room in the mall.
3. Consent. This is iffy. Kids can’t give consent; they are not developed enough. But if the other person is scared, and if the other person says “wait” or “stop” or “no”, it’s illegal to go through with it, that’s sexual assault. A good person would never.
