I Got Married At 20 Years Old And Still Married. We Have Been Having Major Problems' From Calling Names, Getting Very Anrgy And I Feel We Are Going Down Hill Very Fast. Please Don't Say Seek Therapy. He In No Would Do This. I Need Help. I Am Getting Depressed. I Started To Stand Up For Myself Approx 5 Years Ago, Is This Okay?i Just Need Some Advice.

When you talk about standing up for yourself, this indicates that you in some way felt repressed. As a male and married 25 years. I have heard my wife use the same phrase to me. By this she means getting her own way more often. Now, this surprised me because I thought she was happy enough as things were. But not so. I came to realize that our needs change along with our opinions and how we see things. I felt myself getting a bit depressed as did my wife. So we both agreed to try something new. We wrecked our brains thinking about what we could do but we couldn't agree. As a practicing catholic divorce is not an issue, so we tried breaking our routines by doing our own thing . I would go to the pub and she would go for a meal. I would go to bingo and she would stay a night in her sisters. But we both agreed that we had to spend one full day a month doing something together. During the month we would do at least one shop per week as a family and dine out on that day. Things became much better and if we have the money we seem to do things together more often. Good luck

I've been married for 20 years and I have a good man by my side. Everything isn't perfect and we've had our fair share of differences. We both met in the Navy and I'm retired but my husband is still active duty. I have no idea why you and your husband are having problems but you both need to sit down and figure out what's wrong. If you both love each other and want to stay married you both need to let go of what is bothing you or talk it out. It's very hurtful to call names and put each other down. No wonder your depressed, it's harder to be mad at each other. Just think of all the energy it takes to be fighting and discontent. I hope things work out, don't give up.

I also got married at 20 and I was discussing marriage with one of my divorced friends. He told me that studies have shown that there is a point in almost all marriages (usually after around 5-7 years) where there will be a period of lows. This is the period in which most couples will get divorced; however, if they make it passed the period, the relationship goes into a honeymoon phase. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right? My friend said that him and his ex-wife have often talked about the fact that their divorce was probably a mistake and that they both gave up too quickly, but now that the ex has moved to another country and has a new husband, their relationship is lost. I think you need to try to work through it. Try doing something nice for your significant other. Cook them a nice dinner. Another huge relationship killer is just plain stress. You might not need a marriage councillor, but just a weekend in a nice hotel or at a cottage. Don't worry, things will get better.