What happened here? Why is divorce always the first answer? First of all (and I've been there) if you are falling for another guy it is probably because you let the problems of your marriage go too long. Deal with yourself first, then your marriage. If this other guy was meant to be, then it will be after all is said and done. Otherwise you will just repeat the same cycle. I have three kids and almost divorced my husband thinking I would be with another guy. That was just a quick fix though. Now, I'm not saying I might not end up divorced, but at least I'll know I did it for the right reasons, and hopefully also have my kids see me doing the right things (and not getting nailed in court is also helpful). If you have kids, then you owe to yourself to try. As I've wrestled with this I realize many people have opinions, but mine is the only one that counts in my life!! I haven't felt a whole lot of love in a while now, but when we do things together and I force myself to have sex so that we can get connected again, then things aren't so bad. Go out to a movie and get a little tipsy -- see how you feel. There might be more hope then you think. Of course there are probably reasons you are feeling this way, and your husband has to take ownership of his portion of it. That is the problem, mine doesn't.
