I Lost My Grandpa And I Have Been Sitting Here Crying For Over 1 Hour. What Can I Do To Stop?

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Jacquelyn Mathis Profile
Get something that he loved to hold, or something that smells like him, hold something that was special to him or to you from him. Talk to him and remember the things that you had together, lay down with it, and hold it dear to you! You will be asleep and he might come to you tonight while you sleep if you listen, he loves you! He hasn't gone as far as you think!
John Profile
John answered
Well brandon10 -if you and your Grandpa believe in the Jesus/lord God Creator of all things" the Holy Father" then you have nothing really to be sad about except that you will not see your Grandpa for awhile until your old and pass from this earth which in our lives is a very short time compared to eternity....the way to think about it is that your Granpa has a new perfect body(but will still be your grandpa) and he is living in paradise(if you want to look up a description of it) in other words he is having a grand old time seeing all the people that left him here on earth when he lost them....in other words he having fun visiting with old friends and family thought to be long gone....if you have ever had what is called a homecoming buffet(sort of like a big party thrown for Gods own) that is what was waiting for your Grandpa God welcoming him back home to heaven... Which is very cool that the Heavenly Father would stop everything to welcome one of his own back because we are number one in his book so to speak...I will give you something else to think about that I just learned that mite help is that as Jesus being of jewish heritage only mourned(showing respect for the one passed away) for 7 days according to bible related text/ teachings so you think of what I have said and miss your Grandpa -cry if you need to-but remember he is not really lost just in another place/ the best place ever created....and the only real reason we are sad is we are seperated from them but only for a little while(by a little while I mean our life) so after you have missed your grandpa and start living your life again (doing what you did before he past away) and you will. It does not mean you are over losing him just that you really know what happened to him....
Michael Regenauer Profile
Hi Brandon, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You must have loved your grandfather very much. Don't worry about stopping crying when the time comes you will know it. Try reading the sermon on the Mount, Matthew five through seven. The second of the 10 beatitudes states; blessed are they who mourn for they shall be comforted. In memory of your grand father maybe you could set some goals to honor him. As an example you might want to promise him that you will graduate from school and go on to college to earn a degree. Talk to him often as you go through life and he will be listening. Tell him about your hopes and joys and your successes and failures. Don't forget to tell your parents that you love them also. Ask them to tell stories about your grandfather when they were younger this will help you get to know him better. When I was a young man about 14 years old I lost my father to cancer two years later I lost my mother to a stroke. I promised both of my parents that I would never let them down and that they could be proud of me. A half a century later and I can still say I have never let them down. I went from being an orphan at 16 to a successful businessman, a father, a grandfather of seven and a husband to a wonderful wife of 41 years. Your friends are with you ready to offer support in any way you might need and even more important God is with you and will offer you comfort whenever you call on his name. God bless you Brandon.
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Anonymous answered
I know what you are going through. My grandmother and I were very close... It's been six years and sometimes I still cry...though not as often. The only thing that will heal you is time... In the meantime think of all the good times you shared with him:-)
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Anonymous answered
Cry as much as you want. We all react in different ways. I would like to say I'm  sorry for your loss. Try and think of the good times you had with your grandpa and perhaps talking to other members of our family about good memories you all have of him. Take care x 
carrie Profile
carrie answered
I lost my favorite Grandpa less than a year ago. He was 103 and was doing great up until the last 6 months or so. But he had been lonely for the last 10 years ever since my grandmother died. They had been married almost 65 when she died. They had just the most amazing marriage and were two of the most amazing people I have ever known.
I miss my grandparents every day but I remember all of the great things that they did and all of the things they taught me. You can honor your grandpa by remembering him and being the best person you can be.
And I hope you have stopped crying by the time you read this. But you will cry again. And that's okay. It shows that you are human. Someday you will be able to remember him without it hurting. But there will always be things that you wish you could share with him. That just goes to show you what a good relationship you had with him. Not everyone is so fortunate.
It will get better.
Brian Reed Profile
Brian Reed answered

I am very sorry for you that you lost someone dear to you. When I lost my Grandpa I cried for days because he was more like my father than my real father, I can tell you this it will take time to get over the hurt. Try to take your mind off it by doing things you know everyday type things. I feel very bad for you ,but think of it like this He is in heaven now .
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I know exactly how you feel I lost my beloved grandfather 6 years ago, it is hard.... My grandfather had cancer, and I had to realize he had gone to a better place and that he was finally no longer in pain.
Olivia Love Profile
Olivia Love answered
I'm just like you I lost my father when I was 10 now I am 12 I kept pictures of him and put them where ever you like to put it light up candles beside it lay on the couch close your eyes and think about him think about the fun you had with him,about the fun you had with him,and think about everything you did with him and then you will fall asleep and dream about him. 
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Olivia Love commented
My father died with cancer and it is hard to because I missed him very much for a long time.
martha Profile
martha answered
Do not try to stop, you need to cry, so cry. Tears are a gift of God, to help us heal.  It s okay, and normal and necessary for the healing process to cry and grieve openly or however you need to.  I lost my husband 18 months ago, he was only 37 yrs old.  I cried for monthson end, and still do often after all this time.  You will get better, but it will take time, lots of time. If you need to seek help, find a good Christian professional counselor, or a pastor, and you can see a medical doctor if you feel you are going into depression.  I did, and the meds do help.. Hang in there.  Remember you grieve, because you have loved.  God bless.
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Omer Butt answered
A heart wrenching thing that even happend to em a year ago. I am still disturbed over that. I was already in phase of extreme losses when I losed my Grandma too. But, I cried. I never stopped myself. I creid whenever I was alone and then got engaged with activities of daily LIFE. It is just that engaging in your daily life activities helps you to temporarily forget or lessent he pain but the feeling of loss sometimes never ends(Likemy case). I actually used the tip that tiggersmom mentioned in her post.
My hands are raised for your prayers-Life is giving you a LIFE's STYLED LOVE FILLED HUG-Just close your eyes slowly, open your arms widely and take a deep breath slowly to feel life's hug right near your heart!
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Anonymous answered
Hi Brandon.
I too am sorry for the loss of your Grandpa. I can tell you from experience in my life that he has not gone away from you. He will be with you always in your heart, soul and mind....as well as spirit. When we die we pass over to our real way of being...our souls go home, heaven, eden...whatever term you choose. But we never leave the ones we love. We always come to see them and if you listen carefully you will feel your Grandpa near you.
Talk to him, he can still hear you...I promise. He can come to you in your dreams....ask him to and I know he will oblige. You may not consciously remember but your soul will know it. There are no words I can offer to heal your hurt and heart but I can promise you we never die...never. We just go home. Also your Grandpa has asked me to make a reference to 'birds' I hope this makes sense for you.
Blessings.
 
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You don't need to stop crying hon. Sometimes letting out pain, or any feelings for that matter, is a good thing. It's a human emotion and it happens. I lost my teenage neice a few years ago to anorexia, I still cry. But I also know that she is feeling no more pain or suffering. I miss her for my own selfish reasons, you know? But where she is now is because that is exactly where she is supposed to be. I cannot explain the meaning of life or death, all I know is that we're born for a reason, we die for a reason, we come into the family's that we do for a reason. For me, I believe that we are here to learn so that when we finally get to the place that really matters (heaven, afterlife, whatever you'd like to call it), we are able to evolve there by learning from here. I'm sorry for your loss. I know it hurts. If you speak to him, he will hear you. He will even answer if you listen. God bless~~~
Wanda Brewington Profile
When  I am missing my Grandpa (I lost him 5yrs ago now) I go to the funeral home web page and write him a note and at times still cry...or sometimes go visit him at the cemetary to talk or have a good cry when life is getting a bit over whelming and I need his wisdom. But I think at this point in your grieving the holding something is a good idea. See if you could have a sweater of his to cuddle up in or with it or a flannel shirt or something comforting. I still miss my Grandpa so much at times. But he had gone away even before he died due to his having Parkinsons and strokes. And yes your Grandfather is close, after all you are part of him and he of you so he is with you every day. As for my Grandpa, he is waiting for my Grandma camping with Johnny and Rue on the Hoe River :) Blessings, Wanda
Ann Vossler Profile
Ann Vossler answered
"Been there...done that".  I lost my mother 6 months ago to cancer.  Like others have said, just because he's gone doesn't mean he can't hear you.  Talk to him or write your feelings in a journal.  The time will come that you will accept his being gone (but not forgotten).  If your grandfather was anything like my mother, he wouldn't want you to dwell on this.  The best thing I've found is to find something that occupies my time.  I still have moments when the tears come but it's probably because of something that reminds me of her.  If nothing, else find someone you can talk to...perhaps a friend, teacher, etc.  It will get easier....just give it time.
linda ramirez Profile
linda ramirez answered
Well first of all you need to remember that your grandfather loved you a lot.time will heal   your broken heart. Just remember all the good times you had with him ok?as you read this your grandfather is looking down on you.wipe all your tears brandon ok?things will get better for you I promise.god be with you.
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terry rossignol answered
It is not easy loosing a loved one! And it will take sometime! But just remember all the good times you had together and never forget him! Talk to him often because he will still hear you! And he know that you love him very much! Try to remember that he is always with you in spirit!
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Anonymous answered
It's o.k to be upset and to cry that is your way of grieving it will take time to get over your loss you will never forget him but as time passes your pain will get easier and I'm very sorry for your loss.
kristina garcia Profile
kristina garcia answered
Think of good times
but try and remember he might be in a better place
that's what sometimes makes me feel better about my lost loved ones
remember you might see him again some day
:)
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Anonymous answered
Think about him in the positive ways. Learn to move on because his spirit is still with us and he wouldn't want you to be unhappy and miserable. Just sit and talk and he'll find a way to answer.
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Charming Gurl answered
I'm sorry for your loss! Well, I don't know what to say in such situations, but I think that Tiggs wrote very very nice and comfortable words! DO what she said. Hope you'll get better soon.
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Anonymous answered
Crying over a lost loved one is not a bad thing. Whenever you feel like crying, let yourself cry. If you feel like it is the inappropriate time or place to cry (like if you are at school or shopping at the store) try and distract yourself temporarily by doing a crossword, playing a game or calling a friend.

When I am upset and crying something that I have found helpful is to go work out or take a run. If you just go outside and try and push yourself to run at the fastest pace that you can, you won't be able to cry because you will be concentrating so hard on your running. Have you ever noticed how tired you feel after crying sometimes? This is because your body is releasing emotions that need to be released. Don't hold it in, but don't dwell on what has happened either. Keep yourself busy with happy, positive activities and just remember that your grandpa wouldn't like it if he knew you were keeping yourself boarded up in the house. He would much rather see you being happy and enjoying one of your favorite activities.
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Don't try to stop. There's this children's poem that is called "Crying" and the last few lines are:

"And if people say
'Hey!
What's going on up there?'
Just laugh 'Ha ha
Happiness was in the last tear
And I wept it!
Ha ha!"

I understand that you probably don't like this advice, but it works. If you don't like this advice, then take Tiggersmom's advice. That works too.
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Anonymous answered
Think about all the happy times that you shared together and remember, he never really gone as long as you keep him in your memories! Think of him as your guardian angel and know that he will always be there to protect you and guide you!

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