Get away from this guy ASAP! This is how my ex fiance started and not long after that he thought it was "funny" when he broke my jaw and two of my ribs and my left wrist. Run as fast as you can. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. And tell him to stick to his day job because he would never make it as a stand up comic!! Don't take this anymore. You deserve better and I know I don't know you, but no one deserves to be belittled and made to feel bad about themselves by anyone!
This is a form of verbal abuse. If he is doing it now, it will only get worse. He needs some counseling. I would not take this relationship to the next phase unless he gets help. It is obvious to me, that he is not joking. He may be modeling the behavior of his parents, but verbal abuse is inappropriate, and it usually gets worse over time, and may even be a precursor to physical abuse. No-one has the right to insult you or disrespect you, especially those you love.
I know a guy who does exactly that to every girl he ever comes into contact with. I don't really know why, but it's worth noting that he's single now, and his relationships never last. I think you need to get rid of this guy - not worry about what's going on inside his head. Because he's clearly not bothered about what's going on inside yours. Good luck x
Joking or not, I really think your boyfriend needs to understand the damage that he is doing to you and your self esteem. No matter how much you love him, you need to move on and find a guy who isn't going to insult you the way he is. You don't need to put up with that kind of attitude from a guy, and you know what, you can do better. If he really is joking, it's not a funny joke to anyone, and he needs to learn that he can't do and say things like that to women. What better way than for him to learn that than to start losing people around him. It doesn't sound like he respects women and may lead to worse and worse things. For your own well being and safety, you need to separate yourself from that situation.
This is one of the first signs of abuse. You need to either make it clear that you won't stand for this or get out of the relationship as fast as you can. I know you might think you can change him but it only gets worse. I'm sorry but it's true. You'd be better to move on.
Maybe he really thinks that he is joking and its a joke to both of you..... Maybe the serious face when he does it just adds dramatic effect to the joke..... Explain to him that this is not in anyway funny to you and if he doesn't care or doesn't stop then maybe you shouldn't be with him
I insult my boyfriend all the time, I don't mean it of cause.. I think it's because they look big in front of there mates. Just have a laugh with it, and call it him back.. If you calls you stupid, say something like: "so is your mum." that's what I do, especially when he is with his mates, because he will feel stupid, and not do it any more.
