My Husband Cheated On Me After 15 Years Of Marriage. He Had A Relationship With Her For 4 Months Until He Was Caught. He Was "With Her" Twice. How Do I Know It Won't Happen Again.?

I have been through this before if you truly believe he wont do it again great. Every 1 deserves a 2nd chance (especially after 15yr) I went to counseling & asked him every & any thing I had to. It still bothers me to this day. It is a very hard thing to deal with make sure he is willing to deal with it also. But if your going to for give (he must leave it alone go to counseling talk there I learned you can't through it in his face at the time) no body said your going to for get. I wish you all the luck and if he makes you happy hell with what people say. Fix it when you meet people that have been married for 40 yr can you image what they went through to make it that long.

I do agree with you Shirley. A second chance should be given if she feels from heart that her husband is regretting truly! People often make mistakes...and that is why they are human beings and not Angels! A second chance should be given to rectify the mistake, otherwise he would feel that his repentance has no value...provided his repentance his true!

I don't know what it's like to be married for 15 years, but I know it's a pretty darn b*st*rd thing to do to something so deceiving who's given you their life and love faithfully for that long. I think if your husband was that guilty about it, he wouldn't have kept coming back to her for four months. Do you believe that he's only been with her twice in four months? It sounds like it's time for an interrogation. I suggest you take him to counselling and threaten to leave him if he doesn't give you all the truth. You really need to put him on the spot. You have to love yourself and have pride in some cases, be able to see the truth, not just what you want to see. Think about it hard. Just make sure you know that he isn't lying, and nevertheless, you must make him pay for what he has done to you. If you are going to forgive him you must make sure he is learning a hard lesson. Here is a guide to know if someone is lying to you:

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I've been there and this Is what he told me when I asked why.  He had the nerve to tell me he loves me too.  I wanted answers and he gavee none.  When he said "I love you too", it sounded like I was #2.  I just couldn't have someone I'm married to sleeping in my bed and putting me second in his life.  So I told him to take the love he has for me and give it all to her.
I loved and stood by my husband for 15 years and he deceived me.  Bye bye hubby, I well we deserve better.