Yo Kass answered
My advice would be to approach the issue bearing in mind that changing your boyfriend's behaviour will be difficult. It could be that the cause of his anger is psychologically deep-seated and, in some circumstances, this may prove impossible to alter.
How to deal with my boyfriend's bad temper? In my opinion, the worst thing a woman can do to deal with a man's bad temper is to put up with it. The longer his behaviour goes unchecked, the more difficult it will be for him to see the error of his ways.
On the other hand, bringing the problem up can be difficult because it may cause a confrontation that will trigger his temper. One suggestion I'd have is to discuss the problem with someone else present. The person you choose needs to be trusted enough by both of you to act as an effective mediator, but it needn't necessarily be a trained professional. Someone like your boyfriends mom or other relative might be an idea.
Don't become a victim to his short temper If you feel that talking to him is not doing any good, you really need to ask yourself whether breaking up with him may be an option. This is usually the last thing in the world that a loving girlfriend will want to hear, but it comes with two very good advantages:
1) It will get you out of what is potentially a dangerous situation. If a man can't even control his temper around the woman that he is meant to love and respect more than any other in the world - what is to say things won't turn seriously violent?
2) A break up may do his temper good- Sometimes men need a wake up call in order to really recognize their behaviour. If you've tried talking about the problem and it still hasn't been resolved, maybe your man needs to 'see' the consequences of his temper. Breaking up with him might just be the 'shock to his system' that will snap him out of his abusive behaviour.
How to deal with my boyfriend's bad temper? In my opinion, the worst thing a woman can do to deal with a man's bad temper is to put up with it. The longer his behaviour goes unchecked, the more difficult it will be for him to see the error of his ways.
On the other hand, bringing the problem up can be difficult because it may cause a confrontation that will trigger his temper. One suggestion I'd have is to discuss the problem with someone else present. The person you choose needs to be trusted enough by both of you to act as an effective mediator, but it needn't necessarily be a trained professional. Someone like your boyfriends mom or other relative might be an idea.
Don't become a victim to his short temper If you feel that talking to him is not doing any good, you really need to ask yourself whether breaking up with him may be an option. This is usually the last thing in the world that a loving girlfriend will want to hear, but it comes with two very good advantages:
1) It will get you out of what is potentially a dangerous situation. If a man can't even control his temper around the woman that he is meant to love and respect more than any other in the world - what is to say things won't turn seriously violent?
2) A break up may do his temper good- Sometimes men need a wake up call in order to really recognize their behaviour. If you've tried talking about the problem and it still hasn't been resolved, maybe your man needs to 'see' the consequences of his temper. Breaking up with him might just be the 'shock to his system' that will snap him out of his abusive behaviour.
