Oscar De La Huerte answered
Sex: It's one of our main biological functions, and yet we seem to struggle a great deal when we attempt to talk about it.
If you want to know how to have sex, then the answer is that there are many different ways to engage in sexual activity.
In the most conventional sense, sex usually refers to the insertion of a male's penis into the vagina of a female. The erogenous zones are stimulated, resulting in orgasm.
Learning about sex
Although sexual intercourse is essentially the means by which humans reproduce, having sex is often seen as a deeply personal physical embodiment of the love between two adults. For some, its chief purpose is the carnal and instinctive pursuit of physical pleasure.
However people view sex, there'll come a point in every adolescent's life when they get curious about what exactly 'having sex' entails.
These days, there are usually three sources of sexual information available to most young people:
The first thing I'd say is that it is important to get as much information as you can about sex before you actually go ahead and try it out.
Speaking to your parents, and attending 'sex-ed' classes at school can be awkward, but at least it allows you to have a balanced introduction to sex. The internet, although a very useful source of information, is an unfiltered and often misleading source of sexual advice.
How to have sex
Having said that, if you're interested in finding out the physical steps to having sexual intercourse, you could do a lot worse than take into consideration the following:
Whilst sex can undoubtedly be a very pleasurable experience, it is really important that you look into the risks involved in having sex before you go ahead and try it out for yourself.
Topics you may want to read up on include:
If you want to know how to have sex, then the answer is that there are many different ways to engage in sexual activity.
In the most conventional sense, sex usually refers to the insertion of a male's penis into the vagina of a female. The erogenous zones are stimulated, resulting in orgasm.
Learning about sex
Although sexual intercourse is essentially the means by which humans reproduce, having sex is often seen as a deeply personal physical embodiment of the love between two adults. For some, its chief purpose is the carnal and instinctive pursuit of physical pleasure.
However people view sex, there'll come a point in every adolescent's life when they get curious about what exactly 'having sex' entails.
These days, there are usually three sources of sexual information available to most young people:
- Parents
- Sex-education class at school
- The internet
The first thing I'd say is that it is important to get as much information as you can about sex before you actually go ahead and try it out.
Speaking to your parents, and attending 'sex-ed' classes at school can be awkward, but at least it allows you to have a balanced introduction to sex. The internet, although a very useful source of information, is an unfiltered and often misleading source of sexual advice.
How to have sex
Having said that, if you're interested in finding out the physical steps to having sexual intercourse, you could do a lot worse than take into consideration the following:
- Sex is often preceded by something called foreplay. This can involve anything from kissing through to touching. This part allows the body to become stimulated, in preparation for sex. In guys, this means the shaft of the penis will fill with blood and become hard and erect. For ladies, it means the vaginal passage becomes wet or 'lubricated', facilitating the next part:
- The penis is inserted into the vagina. There are a number of positions this can be done from. I won't go into too much detail, but there is plenty of information about sex-positions on the internet.
- One or both partners thrust their hips. This causes the penis to move backwards and forwards inside the vagina creating pleasurable friction. This is continued until either or both people reach orgasm. In women, stimulation of the clitoris is usually important to reaching sexual climax.
Whilst sex can undoubtedly be a very pleasurable experience, it is really important that you look into the risks involved in having sex before you go ahead and try it out for yourself.
Topics you may want to read up on include:
- Sexual health and sexual infections
- Safe sex and contraception
- Pregnancy
- Ethical and religious implications of sex
- Legality of sex
- Relationships
