I moved out of the house and went to college last summer and I am not excited to go home for this summer and deal with my parent's fighting EVERY DAY. They used to blame their issues on me but now that I'm gone it's gotten even worse. I don't think I want to get married or even have a family of my own because I don't know what a healthy marriage looks like. But to all the kids who aren't 18 yet....try to cherish the good moments you have with them, even if they are rare, before you move out, and realize that you are NOT your parents and you are NOT their problems. Also it might help to go to a counselor at school or even see a therapist on your own, I had to because their fighting has really affected me and my own personal relationships. It is difficult but soon you will also be out of the house and making a peaceful home life for yourself :) with NO fighting, whether it be at a college or your own place! Everyone keep your head up, it will be okay! If you need to get out of the house to escape or fear for your safety, talk to one of your friend's parents and see if you can stay the night there. Find peace within yourself. Sadly, sometimes only really dramatic things can let your parents know how bad it makes you feel, I have broken dishes in front of them to get their attention, but don't EVER resort to hurting yourself or doing something dangerous to show them how you feel. Hang in there everybody....you are not alone!
My parents fight all the time. My mom yells, but she isn't as bad as my dad when he yells. At first my dad is calm. He's always calm in a fight, but when he's out of a fight he's always cranky. Anyway, my dad is always calm in a fight at first. Once you get him ticked off BAM!!!! He's worse then my mom. Here are some suggestions: 1. In the middle of the fight yell STOP as loud as you can. I did this once and afterwards I said "You are all acting like a bunch of children,". The results led to another argument. You might be afraid to do this so I have another suggestion. 2. Get a tape recorder and record the fight. A few days after the fight cry and when your parents ask you what's wrong play the tape. If you don't want to do that I have omething else you could do with the tape recorder. 3. Ask to talk to your parents privately. Then play the tape and say "This is what you do me (and my siblings)". If you have brothers or sister's in the house then say "You know I thought you could be a better role model than that. You are emotionally scarring the children in this house (me)." Then explain how you feel about them fighting. I have one more suggestion, which involves money, money, money. 4. My last suggestion is whenever they have a fight tell them they have to pay you $5 a piece whenever they have a fight. Here on after is optional. Record how much money each of them gave you and subtract when you give it back. Tell them if they stop fighting for two months then they get some of their money back, if they don't they have to keep on paying you $5 a piece. I hope this helps you.
I can't tell you for how long I have woken up to hear my parents fighting and went to bed hearing them fighting. It tears me and my sister apart as well and we have had some emotional issues because of it. But sadly there isn't much we can do about it. We've talked to them about how their fighting hurts us, they say sorry, and lo and behold they're at it again the next day. Though it may seem that your parents are fighting over stupids things, what they truly are fighting about is much deeper then those silly things. Because they don't know how to deal with the bigger issues, they fight over the little things to get the steam off. I believe one the worst things parents can do if fight and argue in front of their children, so all we as the children can do is not let this tradition continue into our personal lives when we are parents. I hope you can find peace else where, if not with your parents. I personally got closer to my religion and learned to accept them for who they are. But, no doubt, the fighting de-ff. Claws at my heart, but faith has helped make me stronger so that I can live past their constant fighting.
Don't worry..your not alone when this happens. My parents also fight everyday about stupid things and its tearing me apart. I cry and hope that the next day will be good but its not. My dad always starts it and he is always wrong. I can't do anything 2 stop them. I'm 2 scared! :(
I am so desprerate I have tried everything my dad won't even say a thing to my mom I have tried doing all the work around the house to get them to get there mind away from eachother an look around but it still doesnt work I have tried yelling at them it worked once but they just end up fighting a couple days later. My dad sais he is going to leave sometimes but he hasn't yet thankfully. I tried yelling again last night but my dad just yelled at me and sent me to bed at 7:00 with out supper I don't know what to do I have even triede to make them think I ran away of course they came to get me but I still didnt work. I'm scared : (
You can go to your parents which ever one you feel more comfortable with and tell them that you really don't like hearing them fight. Ask them if they could try not to do it around you, most parents are not aware that it is upsetting there kids so it is best to let them know. This will probably not get them to stop fighting but it will make them aware of were they are fighting and who they are fighting around. None of this is your fault and you are aloud to be angry about it if you want to, make clear how you feel about this.
My mum and dad use to fight all the time and got divorced, now my mum and her boyfriend fight non stop. I get sick of it because it is always infront of me and over both petty and massive things, without fail everyday and without fail at least three times a day. You can set a clock by those two. I thought for ages about how I could stop both parents and step parents arguing with eachother, it affects my sleep pattern and emotional happiness, as well as my ability to study. I have tried talking to them about it, intervening myself as the voice of logic even counselling but I came to the sad conclusion that my parents didn't want to help themselves and stop fighting...even for me. I try to tell myself each day that they are not me, I will not become them and that I can use my screwed up childhood as a learning point. Put yourself first here, when they argue go away and do something that makes you happy. My parents didn't put my happiness first, after I accepted this and decided to create a happy normal life for myself and not let their problems touch me, thier arguments became just blank noise to me. There are thousands of people in the same situation as you and me and thousands of selfish parents out there ruining kids lives by involving them in their problems. I got out and never regretted it, I can only suggest you do the same. Not 'how do I get my parents to stop all their stupid fighting' but 'how can I get away from my parents stupid fighting and make a life of my own' Good luck
My parents are fighting right now and I'm thinking of just barging in and punching them both in the face so they can just SHUT UP. Its getting really annoying and whenever they fight I seriously want to jump off my balcony I'm sick and tired of it.the next time they fight I'm going to pretend to run away cause I already have a good hiding spot. If anyone has some suggestions please tell me I'm desperate here!!
I understand how you feel, I was searching up on this topic and found this, but I am SO FRUSTRATED. Every SINGLE website tells you to don't bother them and let them fight. But they don't understand that your afraid if might get violent. I know what it feels, your not the only one seeking you solution. And people, PLEASE DO NOT GIVE ME THAT CRAP about talking to a counselor, if it's so easy then do it yourself.
My parents constantly fight about the in laws then it turns into ww2 between the two of them, there is fighting, yelling, throwing, threats, and a lot of swearing then I am involved within it all I am expected to stick up for them then I get in trouble from the other. They both think they are right nd the problem is never resolved it Just keeps building up within the next argument I don't know what to do anymore any suggestions?
God who knows how to stop them!my parents fight all the time because my dad drives a truck on the road and my mom does NOT trust him! My mom is accusing him of cheating and believing in horoscopes! Please help meh before its too late for them ! :((((
Hey. I know what you mean. My mom and dad are like a war zone. I TOTALLY understand. I have a suggestion though. It's a list actually. Best case scenario: Talk to them and they will probably understand they are only, and just human. Then they will (hopefully) agree to be the best they can in the sense of being understanding. Middle:They will not understand at first when you talk to them. They will begin to argue. But you will eventually start to compromise. Worst case scenario: You will try your hardest. But they will keep arguing. ♼WORST WORST WORST!!!:They get divorced after not understanding. This Is a very rare event. There is a 3% chance of this happening. I highly doubt they will get divorced. But in case they do, you shouldn't try to change that if they decide. You may think it's all about you, but it's not. Just remember no matter what, they will always love their child. You. So if it's not that bad, feel free to try all of these. If it's more serious, don't worry. It's not bout you. Hope I helped and that your okay!
Unfortunately it is one of those things and as you can see you are not alone. Parents fight for all sorts of reasons usually over money but there are many other reasons they fight. Marriage usually always starts off great at the beginning and then there are external factors that cause worries and anxieties to surface. The most important thing to remember is that it is a personal war that they are fighting. It has nothing to do with you. Talk to them when they are alone maybe even tell them how it is effecting you. This may only make them feel guilty about fighting in front of you and not solve the problem but at least it will make them think. The most important thing to remember is that their love for one another is still there. However over time due to angry words and constant fighting they start to believe that they are not loved or respected. This is the reason they divorce.
Our parents fight about the smallest things and they don't understand how the 3 kids in the family feel. We want to talk to them but we don't know if it will help or make it even worse. They promised a great summer but it is a disaster. My dad always makes my stepmom so angry she threatens that she will take her son ( stepbrother) and leave us here. I love my step brother too much to let him leave but it seems I'm defenseless. I just want them to stop! I am going to try to talk with them but... I'm scared. I think they just need to talk and get over it. I think it may work... Hopefully.
Well once I ran outside for a while when my parents were fighting and literally hitting on eachother an the blood and yeah. They thought I ran away and they put aside their crap to cone find me. I just went for a walk because it was mad annoying and sad, I'm a 14 year old dude and I cried, anyone would. I mean BLOOD AND ABUSE...they would never go to someone for help because they both think that they're right... Help?!
Well I grew up on their fightings ...well they are good parents I love them.. But they wont understand and when I tell mom about it and how it upset me she tells me that I have no right to do this and I have 2 live my life normally like nothing happend ...and dad dosen't even know my feelings ...I thing letting them is the most best solution...my sis tells me just to stay calm and leave them alone because me in the middle is only makes it more trouble and am not fine with it though but I have no other option..but still love them :(
You are not alone. My parents are fighting right now. I grew up wih it and I still have no clue how to stop it. They physically and mentally abuse each other, they scream at each other, they leave, they get restraining orders against each other, they do just about everything expect for get help. I have tried crying, screaming, literately getting in the middle of it, leaving with my older half brother, and even almost calling the cops. Nothing seems to work. They have tried consouling and I have talked to them about it. I think they do acknowledge and feel terrible for what they do, but they can't help them selves. All you can do is hope for the best and keep the good times close. And don't forget to be strong.
My parents fight ALL the time. One day everything is going fine and then they just start yelling. They never stop and my sister and I always end up being the blame. I have 2 brothers on the autistic spectrum and another brother who are all under the age of seven... Sometimes I just want to leave this house and take my little brothers with me and never come back. I'm afraid if my parents keep fighting its going to affect my little brothers, they always ask me why our parents are yelling at each other and I don't know what to say so I just take them upstairs to get them away from the yelling. I don't know what to do anymore, I can't stand it. Any advice on what to do?????
I grow up by looking at my parents fight and I am in the same situation still now and I try to talk to them individually and sometimes it's might help talking to both but the bad part is you getting heart when you hear the hate and blaming they have on each other and they just live you confused and scare and it heart too. The only thing you can tell them is "what you really feel when they fight" and tell the truth. They might fight out side!!!
There is a simple option , do you have any siblings ? If you have then , when your parents start fighting , it means its the time to start your fight ,and don't forget to shout louder than your parents do , you must keep one thing in mind must not give attention to your parents , take a reason like the other one stole your candy , once you got their attention they will ask for the reason of the fight between you two ,but don't tell them about it that easy , after 10 mts let them know that it was all about a candy , I think your parents are wise enough to understand your point
Well if your just an 11 year old girl like me just say your sick of it stop and one time it worked when I said if you keep fighting ill fail school on perpis! Plus try pretending to run away it work also
Try saying stop lightly.and if it doesn't work talk about it with your mom then your dad and if they keep doing it then scream "STOP! I HATE HOW YOU GUYS ALWAYS TALK ABOUT STUPID STUFF AND WHEN YOU THINK I'm TALKING STUPID I'm NOT I'm TIRED OF YOU GUYS FIGHTING! STOP!"and they will stare at you and you just say lightly "I wish you guys wil stop tomorrow" it might work if it doesn't then I did all I can
My parents are fighting too over a heater and a door lol. Can;t believe this. I want to stay away from them but my mom has kidney problems so I can't just let her get mad and angry and cry without anybody caring for her. My dad doesnt understand and gets so irrational and I can't argue with him, he is such a selfish punk. Everytime my mom suggests to him to stop smoking and other things that is actually good for him he would get mad and hurt my moms feelings. I feel so bad for her but I can do nothing to change my dad since he is such a punk. I guess sometimes we just need to care for ourselves and leave their problems behind. But, poor mom, I ll rescue you to move to my house as soon as I can buy one.
Well it happens to me all the time my mum and dad often fight but sometimes I say things and make it worse if your mum and dad have just had a fight my advice is to go and talk to them camly after they have calmed down but do it after about 10 minutes then say something to make them cheer up I do it everytime and it makes them cheer up x
My parents r fighting right now!Since my moms on the computer so much doing her job and going on facebook my dads gets so angry a fight comes out.He thinks my mom has a lot of bf on facebook but I tell him there called good friends.What should I do I tried everything like threaten to hit them with my shoe,telling them id run away,and more.Can some1 tell me What 2 do?
Try to have a talk with them individually to let them know it bothers you, and if that does not work try involving other family members : aunts , uncles, grandparents ect.If there are really young children that are subjected to it in a way that could be dangerous or harmful to them, contact social services
It hard some times you feel like you r the problem and they won't stop and just keep going and going and then the won't drop it till 1 hour later and this has helped me see that I need to have a talk wit them and tell them how it effects me
I've tried all of what people have said on here, but nothing works. My parents are not married, so they can't divorce, (which means that divorce can't help stop the fighting). My parents have separated in the past, but my father always comes back for some reason. They fight and bicker about the smallest of things, all of which originates from something by me. I'm not a bad child, I'm actually a straight A student (I know that doesn't matter about how bad I'm not, but I'm trying to say that I do the right thing). But the good things I do tend to cause trouble, and I don't how. Apparently my parents are not fond of doing well in one's life. But anyways, I just wanted to know how to stop it.
I would first see the fight from the way your mom viewed it and how your dad viewed it. I would then talk to each of them. Find out why there mad. See if you can again talk to them individually telling them the other parents view point. I don't know if that will help but you can try!
I feel this way too... My family fights allllll day... My younger sister is fine, but I am only 11, and I am the top of the class and very knowledgable, so I think my parents are very dumb to do some of the stuff I hear. I try to talk with them together or seperate, but all my father does is shrug. It tears me apart!
You need to find out the real reasons behind fighting. As long as you are a minor, your parents get to make all your decisions. It's better to learn how to work with them than it is to be continually fighting.
1. Remain calm
2. Be honest and objective
3. Do not apologize if you were right
4. Tell the full truth
5. Remember that yelling is not eternal
6. Don't wheedle and beg or play your parents against each other
7. Understand that if your father "blows issues out of proportion" often, this is due to his insecurity issues and has little to do with you.
8. Keep your voice down and respond calmly
9. Earn his trust and respect
Be friendly with your father. Ask him for advice, and spend time with him. Ask him to spend time with you.
Try to find out the reason behind their fight and then analyze who is right and wrong. Then you can give advice to solve this problem. Nothing is impossible just try to make some efforts to unite them
Talk to them. And tell them your opinion. Say this is stupid can I make a suggestion. If you think one person is right tell them. Ask them to stop fighting please. Good luck.
Mine is doing the same thing My parents Cassandra Bullock and Frank Mayo I wish they will stop fighting. THE ARE FIGHTING OVER SOMETHING STUPID!. And DAD THINK BEFORE YOU SAY SOMETHING! AND MOM PLEASE STOP CUSSING DAM WHEN I GET GROWN I MIGHT LEARN IT ALL FROM YOU!
Parents fight all the time. If you are to shy to talk with them then SCREAM at them both in the middle of their fighting moments. Say Stop your making me sick, say sorry already! Both of you are acting like babies just stop and get over it please!
1st thing you need 2 do is stop blaming urself if this is true. It is not your fault. 2nd thing is 2 remember that you r the child & although they don't seem so grown up when they fight, they r the adults here. It probably doesnt help much when you intervien in their problems/arguments. If your parents r willing 2 go 2 marriage counseling, or talk to someone who specializes in marital issues, then by all means suggest that to them. Unfortunately, your efforts 2
My parents are fighting about ME and its on valentines day I don't know what to do I tried screaming ITS VALENTINES DAY and I don't know what to do :'(
My parents are fighting about ME and its on valentines day I don't know what to do I tried screaming ITS VALENTINES DAY and I don't know what to do :'(
My parents are fighting as well, yet It is a very minor fight I just have to keep god in my life and hope that its going to be okay bc tomorrow they will be saying how stupid it was for them to fight. HELP
Same with me, my parents wouldn't stop fighting but I told them how I felt and they took my feelings into consideration and eventually stopped, try talking to them
Try this:Ask each one of them the side of their stories,then, trick them into giving some answers like,"When was your first date together?" or "How did you guys meet?" and if those don't pull it off get you a good old fashioned board game that they both like and play it with them sit in the middle to make them a little jealous.If they don't fall for this, you are C.O.O.L CRAP OUT OF LUCK. I'm sorry.I tried everything I could think of my parents still dislike each other.me and my lil bro are the only things keeping em' together.
If your parents are fighting over something stuipid like 1 of them does nothing when 1 parents does everything else or sumthing like that heres what you do. You sit them down and have a long talk with them tell them how much it hurts you and then thats where you set the limits like you know when your parent tell you hhow long you can do somthing like you can only txt on your phone untill like 10:00 welll, do that with your parents it worked for me I hope it works for you. Goodbye and good luck
My parents fight a lot as well. My dad thinks my mom is having an affair, even though she isn't and it is NONSTOP fighting EVERYDAY and it makes my life miserable. I am scared and worried. What do I do? It is just tearing me apart :(
Yell at them back and yell them to listen to you. Tell them how you feel about all their fighting and how it effects you. Then tell them good things that will make them proud and make them forget about the fighting Hope I have helped you
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Ok,me my 16 year old bro and my 8 year old bro live in an apartment with my parents.every time they drink they fight and they drink a lot now and my dad is talking about killing him self if my mom doesnt leave and my mom doesnt want to leave so I'm very scared:(
I am so sich of my parents fighting because they have different friends and my mom has a friend named Ali and my dad has a friend named Ben and my mom does not really like him and my dad does not exactly like Ali so they pretty much fight every day
